AIBU to not want someone else's kid in my house?

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I was at work until 10 last night, got home at half past. At 1am DD woke up coughing (dry, tickly bugger) so I got up to sort her out. Then I got up at half five because I was back at work at 7am. It was a bad shift. I'm fucking knackered.
DH has gone out with a friend (pre-arranged and I go out whenever I like so no husband issues) but I've walked in on an extra child in house who is "singing" along to DD's "ukulele playing" and DS's frigging harmonica destruction.

YANBU. Call DH and say child'a parents need to collect the child asap as you have plans.

Going to need more info

Call the parents and tell them to collect immediately.

Where has the child come from? Is it just visiting or is it trying to assimilate itself into the pack?

Have you signed anything legally re: adoption?

Ask them to leave.

I am assuming you and your DH crossed over to cover childcare? Did your SH allow the extra child to come in and play? Surely you just say to spare child that it is time for them to go home now. Always worked for me.

DH not SH!

Were arrangements made with your DH?
Do you know who they are and how long they are meant to be there for?

It's just one of your kids mates,what's the big deal?

Who's kid is it?

Maybe the extra child is DP's friend's child?

How old are your children that they can be left alone in the house but still need their Mother to wake up when they cough at night?

Rather more detail is needed before anyone can tell you if you being unreasonable or not, OP.

Not clear who the kid is or how old but sounds like they're keeping each other entertained.

What? Why do you explain your nighttime waking in great detail but don't bother explaining who this child is or how s/he has come to be in your house?

Child has been turfed out. I'm happy that the children have friends over but not when I'm knackered and have been dealing with dickheads for seven hours (York races brings out the very worst in people) and have to now go to a party. God I'm a grumpy old bugger!

Call the parents and tell them what you posted here. Most people would be pretty understanding in that situation. Maybe the kids could go to the other child's house?

Ah well done for turfing them out. Definitely not unreasonable.

Well you missed a trick, you could have sent the children, the ukulele and the harmonica around to their parents' house.

I put up with other people's kids coming here a lot - there are a few neighbours and they come in and out. But it has been a struggle for me, I am autistic and I find the noise and unpredictability difficult to deal with. It's taken a lot to get used to it, but I'm glad the DCs and their friends all have that kind of freedom.

But equally I'm not afraid to say 'not today' on those days I'm not well/tired/busy! On those times, my DCs know they either stay out or play at someone else's house.

I put up with other people's kids coming here a lot - there are a few neighbours and they come in and out

That's how I end up with random children in my house too. They just barrel in and out, which is fine except for when I'm exhausted and grumpy.

Yep I had it all day yesterday, as they were all refilling water pistols, playing board games etc. My DCs had to clean the kitchen floor yesterday as it was messy due to wet shoes!

Have told DD not today, I am unwell. If they want to run in and out of someone else's house they can :o TBH I wasn't feeling well yesterday (I have chronic conditions) but sometimes it's easier to just roll with it