Quick AIBU re: mini break

[doityoufool]

So be grateful for quick opinions. Loosely agreed to have a mini UK break in the summer holidays with friend and same aged DC's.

Babies are 9 months, friends bub is a poor sleeper and wakes 4+ times a night and is hard to settle. I have full sympathies as my first was a crappy sleeper for years.

My quandary is - AIBU not to go if sleep is still rubbish?

In all honestly, I hate being woken by my own DC's let alone someone else's. My big worry is both mine will then be up and take ages to go back off.

DH says dont do it as I'm crap without sleep but friend is lovely, so I'm torn.

Can you go somewhere where you won't be affected? Something like Centerparcs with houses next door to each other?

I was thinking that but seems hard to find something that doesn't cost the earth but I should may be look harder.

Can you not book your own apartments/caravans/different hotel?

I think saying "well your baby doesn't sleep so I'm not coming" is a bit out of order really, what kind of friend uses that as an excuse no to go

Just get separate accommodations, why would you all need to be in together anyway?

Yeah I feel it's a bit mean tbh as it's one of those things that can't be helped.

Separate accommodation is the way to go I think.

Friend is keen on all being together and it would be nice to hang out in the evening.

Tbh my 10month old is still up sometimes 7times a night, I wouldn't inflict that on anyone. I'd suggest separate apartments and spend the evening together then you go back or something. I wouldn't feel bad if someone didn't want to be woken all sodding night, it's bad enough I'm a sleep deprived zombie, why would I have someone else go through it unnecessarily

Have separate bedrooms and use earplugs? Are you a very sensitive sleeper? Have a look for cottages with unusual layouts, such as bedrooms over two floors or an annex set up.

Yes use earplugs

You may find that her baby doesn't disturb you. I used to lodge with friends who had twins, and slept through their night time wakenings - unless I had offered to wake up with them, to give the parents a break. I think you can subconsciously tune out, unless it is your responsibility to wake up.

My baby wakes three or four times a night but would not wake anyone sleeping in the same house. He doesn't cry or anything, just wakes up and needs me and a feed. Don't assume you'll be woken.

Camping? I go to festivals and an annual camp with 200 other families and my babies have never been woken by the sound of babies in other tents crying.

We have been to centerparcs with friends with a baby recently, the four bed accommodation has the rooms spread out so you could have one set of children in the back bedroom and then the two double bedrooms in between and the other children in the front bedroom. Each set of parents can be next to their own children and no children are next to each other.

We went to centreparcs with friends and our combined kids (1yrs, 2yrs, 4yrs).
Separate rooms within the same lodge.
Their 2yr old is a worse sleeper than ours currently were, and an early riser. Ours awoke about an hour later than her. This didn't cause any issues as the parent of the child awake in the night would deal with them, I didn't really hear her wake up in the night, which she apparently did once each night. When they got up at 6 we were aware of them moving around, but they put tv on quiet, fed breakfast and played quiet games colouring etc until everyone else woke up at 7:30ish.
I can only see it being an issue if you were somehow expected to get involved when the other child woke up, or they would be stampeding about? Or if you really can't Sleep if another child is awake in the night.
I should add that their 2yr old was in the room with them and our DC in their own room. If all DV had been in together it might have been different.

Thanks everyone you've eased my anxieties a bit. Friend is very considerate so would to her best to deal with it all as quietly as possible.

I wear ear plugs anyway as I'm a light sleeper these days. I'm probably overthinking it and it will all be fine.

Find somewhere that provides a floorplan of the accommodation - then have a look to see if you can be in a bedroom that isn't next to hers. It's surprisingly common in holiday apartment-type places I think!