To spend the afternoon in bed?

[Purplemac]

Had a shitty start to the day. My mum then forgot we had plans. I went round to help her babysit and then we said we would do what we had planned after lunch when she was done babysitting.

Ended up having an argument (after the baby had gone, but before we went out - and we NEVER argue) and I ended up walking out in tears.

Came home, have gone straight up to my bed just to cry it out for a bit. I'm done now but have exhausted myself and don't have the energy to get up and do anything with my afternoon and I'm in a shit mood anyway and my period is due tomorrow so I just generally feel shit.

Feel guilty wasting a beautiful day laying in bed though. AIBU?

YANBU - I would do the same. I have a shitty head cold, have hardly slept, have done the laundry and ironing, taken DCs into town for a birthday party, fixed DCs dollhouse and made the tea. DP wants us to go to a party tonight but I just want my bed!!

Oh no I definitely wouldn't be going to a party this afternoon if I were you!

The worst part is that my dad was there when we were arguing and it's pretty obvious he agrees that my mum's in the wrong, but I've not had a text or a call to apologise for her being shitty with me. And we are meant to be going round there tomorrow but I really don't want to see her if she's not going to apologise, but I don't want to miss out on seeing my dad for father's day!

That's a shame - can you call your dad to see if you can do something that's just the two of you?

Not really. My brother and sister are both travelling down from quite far away for a family get together tomorrow.

It was such a silly argument too It's just that she was clearly stressed and it resulted in her talking to me like crap. She was right in what she was saying it was just the attitude and making me out to be stupid because I don't know as much as her about this particular DIY skill she was meant to be helping me with!

Go sleep under a tree with the birds tweeting, it's very therapeutic.

What specifically was the argument about, was it that your mum forgot the plans?

X post. Sounds like this was a silly argument over nothing really. Your mum sounds like a busy lady.

Don't fall out with your mum over something silly, life's too short. Send her a text saying sorry that you argued and let her respond. Have a nap, then enjoy your day with the family tomorrow.

It was a silly argument, but in my experience even when I'm busy I wouldn't talk down to someone to the extreme that they burst into tears. And I went round to help her out so she wasn't so stressed.

It's probably me being oversensitive but she was supposed to be helping me sort out the spare room, as DH and I are adopting. She has gone above and beyond for all three of my siblings when they were preparing for their babies in the past 18 months, including going up for weekends at a time to help decorate etc and she has always enjoyed it. So I already felt pretty low that she forgot she had offered to help me today, because I know that if I was pregnant like my sisters/SIL it would never have been forgotten.

I have now text her telling her I love her. You're right. Life is too short.

Is she the type to just dig in and not apologise at all?

If it was just a silly argument, then I agree with sunshinegirls. Get it past both of you, and enjoy the family day. In the meantime, take it easy for the rest of today.

Josh not really, I've just heard back from her and she's made me cry again by saying that she's sorry too, it's just that she was trying to explain something and no one ever let's her tall. Which of course has made me feel awful because I hate when people don't let you explain what you're trying to say and I've apparently just done it to my own bloody mother

*let's her talk

At least it's sorted out , it's lovely being part of a family where you can have a barny and then just move on , blame the weather its making lots of people a bit more edgy .

Sounds like it's all worked out well. These things happen with family but they blow away quickly - I remember a particularly nasty spat with my mum over our wedding guest list, which was forgotten after a couple of days!

Hope you enjoy Father's Day.

Well done on the texting her to say you love her.

I think the problem is that we are too alike but we so very rarely argue, she is fantastic.

I have been where you are, OP. Sending hugs. Be kind to yourself and pamper yourself. Take a long hot bath later. Maybe get your favourite treat from the store? Watch a comedy. This will pass. x

YANBU. I've often spent part of the day before my period is due in bed! I'm always exhausted just before.

Well done for texting your mum, sleep for today if that's what you need to do & hopefully your family get together tomorrow will be calm and stress free .

And just to add, the world seems like a miserable and awful place before and during my period. Then the sun comes out again. And I'm very prone to arguments before my period comes. :( You aren't alone, OP!