To think you shouldn't buy clothes for someone unless they're slim

[Fulani1989]

I would say clearly slim. No more than a size 12 at least.

I don't buy clothes as a present anyway but my Son's Grandmother (Dad's side) is very thoughtful and has brought me some items of clothing as presents for years.

Before I had DS I was a size 10. Got clothes in a size 10 and never thought anything of it.

Then I put on a lot of weight and after labour while in hospital she bought me a nightdress in a size 18! I still feel hirt just thinking about it.

She bought me a dressing gown and pjs in a size 16 the following year.

Now I've lost most the the weight I am being given size 14 clothes. She absolutely didn't mean anything malicious. She's lovely!

Generally though, AIBU to think you shouldn't buy clothes for someone who is overweight? I found it hurtful personally.

My mil told me about a dress she had seen. She wasn't hinting for me to buy it, unless she is really good. I asked my sil what size to get and my mil was really touched and pleased to receive it. Well I think and hope that was what happened anyway!

I think it depends on the person. I have a friend who is quite obese but doesn't really care about it and I'd buy her clothes in an instant. I have a cousin who is about 25 lbs overweight and carries it very well. But because she is sensitive about it, I wouldn't buy her clothes.

I'm about 15 lbs overweight and the only reason I would prefer people not to buy me clothes is because I need to lose that 15 lbs!

I dont know. I vary between a 10 and 14 depending on the time of the month....should I not be given clothes as gifts because I'm not "thin" enough half of the month?!

I think you're being incredibly unappreciative.
If you'require saying she is lovely as a person then you should see her gifts as a lovely thought. If she got the size wrong on the dressing gown and nightdress, is it such a big deal? Its night wear! And PJ'S! I mean...come on! It's so thoughtful of her and let's be frank, this is more about you not having the body you had before than it is about someone getting you a bigger size that made wearing the clothing 'hurtful'....

BUT if it really is that big a deal....be a little tactful. Say you lobve her gift but is there a chance it can be exchanged for one in a different size so it fits better....if not, you'll keep it and wear it regardless?!

Be greatful. You have some loving people around you. Don't poison your mind because their loving gesture was not up to standard for you. That i what I would deem hurtful.

Jesus, bloody mumsnetters at it again. Stop getting ahead of yourself.

CherryPeaker
''Oh so if i'm a size 14 then i'm a fat cow is it''

cop the f on!!!! Being so dramatic. It goes without saying that someone who is size 14 is usually not slim, it's not an insult, or a stereotype, just a general thought. I'm over 14 myself so don't hold it against me to try say i'm judging you. People on mumsnet continue to annoy me!

*it could be because" I meant!