Such a long story, but a close relative of mine, let's call her Amanda, has asked to come and stay for the weekend soon. She has a course she wants to attend for her hobby.
I don't want Amanda to stay. She has been behaving badly for years now; being unpleasant to other family members, flying off in rages, cutting out most of the family other than me and one aunt plus the aunt's dc, blocking their phone numbers etc. I've also heard she tried to physically attack another family member but I wasn't there so it's all very third hand info.
I find her being in my house awkward - it feels awkward and a bit stressful. Amanda has been so unkind at points to other members of my family, that I really would rather avoid her. But I also don't want to fall out with her entirely iyswim?
I've already said that we might not be able to accommodate her as we've been invited to another relative's bday. Amanda was invited too, but has declined saying (lying) she will be abroad. This makes things even more awkward as Amanda has said she can't make the other relative's party and now wants to stay with us. I don't want to hide that Amanda is staying with us from other relatives or make it look as if we are both making excuses for not coming iyswim; we now don't think we can make the other relative's party. We can't find anywhere nearby to stay, (all hotels are fully booked in the area - it's a 3 hour drive each way).
I am also pregnant, which Amanda doesn't know yet. We won't have had our first scan by the time she wants to stay, so we don't want to tell anyone. I'll have to find excuses for randomly gagging and going to bed at 9 each night, which I could do without.
What to do? Let her stay and suck it up, or say it isn't convenient? Advice much appreciated.