Wwyd? Play date including dinner

[ItalianWiking84]

I'm not British so apologize in advance for any spelling or grammar mistakes.

We live in Denmark. Dd2 is 3 and had just started kindergarten. She is loving it and is making new friends which is great.
She sits everyday for lunch next to a Chinese girl and they have enjoy playing together. The other day when I dropped her of the girl came and asked if dd could play with her outside kindergarten. I said yes and that I could try arranging something with her dad. Yesterday at pick up I see the dad on the way in and he says the girls wanna play together, would dd like to come home with us Monday and play. Yes I say sounds great. Then he says she can just stay for dinner and you can pick up after or I drop her off. The girls come running at the same time and he then says to dd and his dd, so your playing Monday together and dd eats at ours.

The thing is I know from dd that the girls has a rather unique lunch compared to most Danes and eat food like squirt, oysters, mussels. It's not like dd is particularly picky but I'm afraid if she won't eat/like the dinner and then perhaps say something rude or refuse to eat it. On the other hand it would look weird I think now if I come and say No dinner.

How do I go about this? What would you do?

See how it goes, all this worry and she might end up having pizza or nuggets for tea, if it makes you feel easier let the Dad know she is fussy but I'd just chill out and see how things go.

My neice is supposed to be vegetarian but eats everything at her friends houses without complaint to the point where we now have to make her dietary requirements known to the parents. Kids often behave better for their friends' parents. Don't say a word.

I'm sure the fill will realise that some things might be too 'unusual' for others (there are some things I'd never cook for other people) and maybe keep it simple.

However, kids have a way of eating what their friends like or at least trying them. DS was merrily eating garlicy squid at a party in a restaurant when I collected him once as all his French pals had chosen it. He said it was lovely but hasn't asked for it again!

It's only one meal,you can feed her when she comes home.

I wouldn't stress about it too much. I have had DCs little friends cry and turn down play safe UK basics like pasta bake or shepherds pie because 'it didn't taste the one their mum made'. IME children are more likely to try new things when they are with their friends. Being offered something totally unfamiliar might be an exciting change for her. Even if she doesn't like it, as long as she is polite and doesn't turn her nose up at it then no harm will be done if she doesn't eat much.

Congratulations on your excellent English. Very impressive.

lunde see im Danish so I would go for a lot of the food you mention and make.

Properly stupid of me to stress about. It's not so much the unusual food but more that I don't want them to think of her as rude or fussy.
I'll emphasis again to her about not being rude and taste what is served.

liinoo thank you

It took me while to work out that my DS was turning down after school play dates and invites to tea because he was afraid of what he would be given to eat. So I just had a conversation with other parents telling them that he was worried about the food; all of them said 'no problem - what does he like to eat?'
Simples.

You're overthinking this.

If she doesn't eat it don't worry about it! feed her when she gets home.
If the children are friends they will want her to have a nice time, they''ll be well aware they eat differently.

It probably won't even be an issue! most people make something kid friendly on a play date just to keep it safe!

My DS who is a fussy eater has tried great and for him unusual things at his pakistani british friends house. So just give it a try! No one thinks a 3-year old is rude if she simply says she doesn't like certain things

Hi wiking just spotted you here, I'm formally lilac from the frugal thread how are you dh & dd's?

Thanks all your probably right that I'm over thinking it. The girls dad just texted and asked for anything she didn't like or allergies, said she wasn't that happy about spicy food. He suggested noodle soup with egg and veggies, which dd would happily eat. And then asked about fizzy, which I replied with that dd don't drink so to please just provide water.

Hi mammy we are all fine. I often read on the frugal tread, and often think that I wanna come back. Perhaps from the start of July, make it a new month, how are you???

Great outcome from your dd's friends dad, hope she enjoys the playdate.

I'm good, glad to hear you're reading, it's got much busier over there. I'm reading and not posting a lot in last few weeks, things have just been busy.

I wouldn't allow my preconceptions of a meal to filter down to my child, mine is 2 but I don't avoid giving him food because he may not like it. I actively seek out new and unusual textures and flavours for him to try and find if I give him some and then ignore it and eat mine he soon tries it.

I may be blessed with a very unfussy toddler though.