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AIBU about DH losing things and to know he lost this too!

15 replies

singme · 15/06/2017 22:33

My DH has always been bad for losing things. Sometimes he just mislays his wallet in the house for days, although that's got better in recent times.

He left his wallet on the train two weeks ago. He's just got new debit cards through the post and I got a call tonight to say he has lost his card again!! He thinks he dropped it in town.

But my AIBU is this....Last weekend he went away and I was helping him pack. He asked me to put his phone charger in his bag. It's not a popular phone or an easy charger to get. I put it in and some other stuff and closed the bag, but it was a bit full so there was maybe 3cm left open over his lunchbox. When we got outside to the car he made a big deal of the bag being slightly open and rejigged it and closed it before he got in the car. Apparently on his arrival the charger was gone and is now lost....and he says he thinks I lost it instead of putting it in the bag Confused. Based on the above evidence WIBU to say that he definitely lost it? And it is not normal to do this all the time?

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Shoxfordian · 16/06/2017 11:51

He definitely lost it

Chloe84 · 16/06/2017 11:54

He definitely lost it. Tell him you won't be helping him pack again.

If he loses his cards, let him sort his cash flow problems himself.

FanaticalFox · 16/06/2017 12:03

He sounds like a bit of a child stop helping him and let him learn from his own inconvenient mistakes.

Penfold007 · 16/06/2017 12:56

How on earth does he manage at work? He lost the charger

NellieFiveBellies · 16/06/2017 12:59

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SandyDenny · 16/06/2017 13:03

No, it's not normal for an adult not to be able to keep hold of their own things.

Sounds pretty clear that you did put it in the bag and he lost it. Has he searched the garden and the car in case it fell out?

singme · 16/06/2017 15:53

Yeah it's not in the car and not in the road where the car was parked. But I'd put money on it falling out.

Besides, if I hadn't put it in the bag it would be in the house still!

I don't know how he manages at work but he has a pretty responsible job! So I know he can do it. It's not like he's being careless because I'll look after things for him because he loses things whether I am there or not.

I think he needs new trousers with better pockets. Or zips. I suggested a bum bag!

I'd rather he didn't have another debit card for the joint account that's for sure...

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harderandharder2breathe · 16/06/2017 16:44

He lost it

He needs to grow up and take responsibility

missymayhemsmum · 16/06/2017 22:34

He lost it. probably took it out to make space and instantly lost it or else left it plugged in somewhere. Sorry, but if you are a loser of stuff it's a disability like dyslexia. Hard to explain to other people who don't understand why you can't just 'grow up and take responsibility' or 'be more organised'.
He'll need to buy a spare charger or two.

Sisinisawa · 17/06/2017 16:58

Losing stuff is not a disability ffs.

Gazelda · 17/06/2017 17:01

if you are a loser of stuff, it's a disability. Really?!

gunsandbanjos · 17/06/2017 18:02

Fuck off, disability?

MyOtherNameIsTaken · 17/06/2017 18:41

Losing things is a disability? Sure about that? Hmm

Wholovesorangesoda · 17/06/2017 19:25

He definitely lost it. And I say this as a chronic loser of things. It drives both me and my OH crazy but I just can't remember where I last put things and I don't remember to put them in the same place everytime. It's not a disability, but I agree that I can't just 'grow up and be more responsible', I just am useless like that!

Longdistance · 17/06/2017 19:29

Why are you helping him pack?

He's definitely lost it himself.

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