Insensitive friend

[Ilovecoleslaw]

Friend gave me tickets to an event a couple of weeks ago for tonight. Costs £20 in total and didn't want money for them.

Me and my partner found out on tuesday i had suffered a missed miscarriage, ERPC yesterday. The worst ever week we've had together.
Friend messages today saying don't forget about event tonight. I reply saying I don't think we're up for it because of what's happened and then she starts saying I should have told her sooner so she could have tried to sell the tickets???
Now i don't know if I'm being really precious here but I thought that was really insensitive, i haven't been able to think about much else at all, let alone some event tonight?
I had a little argument with her saying i didn't think about telling her about the tickets for selling them and then she goes onto her own rant about going through this last year on her own and hers looked like a baby and mine didn't (it did).
I just feel really hurt that she's turned it around on me and now she's telling me to not talk to her and leave her alone and she never wants to talk about what happened with me again. I completely understand that it's hard for her as she has been through the same thing. But just because she had a worse situation by being alone during hers doesn't make my situation any better?
I think i need some perspective here, aibu by feeling she was really insensitive about the tickets or am i just not thinking straight?

She is being incredibly insensitive.

You may also not be thinking straight. I'd be amazed if you could be totally rational in the circumstances.

Ignore her for now. Take care of yourself

Oh my darling for you what you've through is awful and you time with your partner to grieve for your lost baby and be together. Please stop engaging with her, turn your phone off and just ignore. No of course you're not being sensitive she's being a massive bitch and you don't need her in your life

She's being an arse.

She GAVE you the tickets, once you give something to somebody it's theirs to do what they want with, you do not need to explain yourself to her or anyone else.

Hope you're okay

Your friend was bvvvu. Of course you wouldn't be thinking about tickets/event and resale of tickets she didn't want money for in the first place!

The fact that she went through the same trauma last year alone is not your fault and she shouldn't be saying her situation was worse, that kind of comparing grief and trauma just isn't healthy. But she clearly hasn't dealt with her own issues surrounding her miscarriage and she needs to do that. Spitting spite at you and trying to lessen your pain won't help either of you.

At the minute you need to be kind to yourself and take whatever time you need to deal with what you have been through. You can be there for her when you are able.

She is being VVVU and not a supportive friend in the slightly. Very self-centred. You need to surround yourself with people who are going to be kind and loving to you right now, so I would just ignore her and let her be

She's being fucking horrible. I'm sorry ilove

What Nellie said.

She's no friend.

And so sorry for your loss xx

I agree with Nellie reimburse her and just leave it at that. I don't understand the oneupmanship when it comes to people's grief. She should have been the one to offer you an understanding ear not tell you your pain was less because she was alone. I'm sorry for what you have gone through op.

Thank you everyone. I did offer her the £20 in the heat of the argument but she didn't reply to it. Will ignore for now. Thank you again for your kind words

She's not your friend. I'd drop her like a hot potato, and certainly wouldn't be back in contact with her after this disgusting display of cruelty.

I wonder if she still has a lot of issues with her own miscarriage and that is what is making her react so insensitively to yours? In any case, it isn't your problem, so I would just back off for now and let things go for a while.

What nellie said. That's awful. Take care of yourself