Unlikely to make Mum-friends?

[Buffbabies]

I'm due in a month and a bit. My partner and I originally lived in South Ken, so there were plenty of other mums I knew from pregnancy yoga and so on.

Just recently we moved to the countryside where it's very quiet.

There are some mums in my area but they all have children much older, or are older mums.

Because I'm giving birth in London, my antenatal classes are there too. I haven't had the chance to meet any mothers in my area and there don't seem to be very many anyway.

I'm 20 and extremely self-conscious about it as I think everyone will disregard me as a serious parent. It's something I need to get over, but I'm convinced I won't make any friends that have babies due to my area and age. I have great support and don't ever feel lonely, but I'm worried that my child will miss out on socialising with other babies.

AIBU?

Hiya. I've just had a baby 8 months ago and never made any friends before she was born. I did end up going to loads of baby/mum groups though after she was about 12 weeks old and ended up meeting a lot of lovely women will young babies like mine.

Therefore I think You are being unreasonable, just because you haven't met anyone now doesn't mean you will. You've still got maternity leave ahead of you and you'll want to sign on to some baby groups to occupy your time. You'll meet people, I'm sure of it.

Baby groups are a good way but there's also an app called Mush which is a social media type thing for parents to meet. It's a bit cringe in that you "label" yourself and I'm not sure how much people will actually communicate but it's got a local notice board area where people post meets.

My daughter is 7 months and we just hang out by ourselves at the moment though!

I'm an ancient mum and I love chatting to younger mums - what's not to like? Absolutely nothing to stop you making friends.

I didn't make any friends from ante natal etc either because we went to a naice one out of the area. Once DS had arrived I book myself onto every class going- baby massage, baby sensory, baby signing etc and made some really nice friends that way. It's worth going to a few different groups until you meet like minded people.

Baby groups!!! I made far more friends at baby groups than antenatal classes. Some in their 20s, some in their 30s, some in their 40s. (I was in my 30s). When you have a tiny baby, it is the most important, time consuming and emotionally burdensome thing in your life. What really counts is having friends with similar aged babies, not similar ages friends.

If your bit of countryside is anything like mine, you'll see the same people at all different baby groups and should get to know them soon enough.

I had my DS when I was 22 and made some excellent friends most of whom are at least 10 years older than me (one or two just about old enough to be my mum!) but found it didn't seem to matter, you are all going through the same things at the same time.
Good luck

Two of my best mum friends are 8 and 12 years younger than me ! I wouldn't not talk to someone because they were young so don't worry about that too much. I live in a rural area too and most of us are desperate to find people to talk to as it can be very isolating.

RapidlyOscillating

No reason not to, it's just that we decided to go private. We are heading back up there before my due date or going to face a 2 hour drive.

And thanks everyone else - I think it's most likely all in my head. Hopefully no one will treat me differently due to my age! It's reassuring to hear other young mums did fine!