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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

to not expect to get murdered this afternoon?

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AFierceBadRabbit · 14/06/2017 10:35

I live close to Manchester city center.
I need to return a shirt to '&otherstories' and thought I'd nip on train (20 min journey) to do this.
My friend said 'What? No way would I go there at the moment! It's way too soon!' (terrorism)

Really?
I do not want to appear flippant, but am I really risking my life taking a trip to the city? I'm really not sure how to navigate this one.

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Shoxfordian · 14/06/2017 10:36

Your friend is being ridiculous

threesocksmorgan · 14/06/2017 10:36

Supersoaryflappypigeon · 14/06/2017 10:36

Ask her when the cut off point is-when is it safe again?

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AFierceBadRabbit · 14/06/2017 10:37

This is the thing, I am not sure how other people would perceive this. I wondered if I was going a bit daft.

Surely business and commuters and pretty much everyone else is getting on with it. As dreadful as it seems, we have to.

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TheFaerieQueene · 14/06/2017 10:38

Think about the millions of people who are working and living in Manchester,London , Paris etc. They get on with it. Your friend is being ridiculous.

NC4now · 14/06/2017 10:38

No, you'll be fine. What happened was awful but no-one saw it coming. You can't live your life pre-empting terror attacks.

I took my kids through Manchester airport 2 days after the arena attack. It was fine. The train was a bit delayed because Victoria Station was still closed, so there was rail congestion in the city centre but it's back to usual service now.

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AFierceBadRabbit · 14/06/2017 10:39

Did ask about cut off point - said just not yet.
Vague and useless answer!

Ashamed to admit it but I am sat here allowing confusion to stump me.

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Juanbablo · 14/06/2017 10:39

You can't go through life fearing everything. We just have to get on. Dh is going to France today and I know he's a little nervous about the ferry crossing and the risks involved at the big event he's going to but as I said, we've got to get on with life and can't let the threat of terrorism stop us from doing the things we want to do.

FromAtoBin21months · 14/06/2017 10:39

Errr... your friend is being daft. Go to the city centre you've got nothing to worry about. And then give her a call when your home and tell her just how ridiculous she was

NC4now · 14/06/2017 10:40

Don't. Just carry on with your plan.

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AFierceBadRabbit · 14/06/2017 10:42

thank you. I shall go.
I'm also sorry if the post sounds flippant - I have a bit of a black sense of humour regarding my own longevity (not other people's!).

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Porpoises · 14/06/2017 10:43

I'm in manchester right now, the only remarkable thing is the sunshine.

Somerford · 14/06/2017 10:43

Bizarre attitude from your friend OP. I live in Manchester and as far as I can see, everyone here is just getting on with their lives. Just crack on and tell your friend she is being daft.

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 14/06/2017 10:44

I'm quite nervy about the thought of attacks, I'd still go though. You can't put your life on hold permanently for the "what ifs"

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AFierceBadRabbit · 14/06/2017 10:52

porpoises that's seals it, I'm going!

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highinthesky · 14/06/2017 11:00

Do us a favour and find out what your friend is taking? Because its causing paranoid delusions!

user1496785376 · 14/06/2017 11:04

Your friend is being unreasonable though it's understandable. But there are dangers and terrors everywhere. I worry about my daughter going to school as she has to cross a busy road to get to her bus stop. I can't keep her off school because of that can I?

VestalVirgin · 14/06/2017 11:06

Your friend has a problem with likening terrorism to natural phenomenons.

Yes, when there is a thunderstorm and it stops raining for a while and you don't hear thunder for a moment, then that might be "too soon" go go out.

Same with the first warm day in April being possibly too early to plant cold-sensitive plants.

But terrorist attacks don't just happen because there's a hot day and cold air moves in, or something. They are planned by terrorists.

Who, one would assume, would find it rather ineffective to attack the same city twice in a row, when everyone is still in a panic, and security has been increased.

One could even claim that immediately after a terrorist attack is safer.

BandeauSally · 14/06/2017 11:06

She's an idiot. Manchester is probably one of the safest (in terms of terrorist attack successes) cities in the country.

MsSusanStoHelit · 14/06/2017 11:19

Terrorism is about spreading fear and confusion and terror, and the knock on effects that has. Such as, people not visiting the shops anymore and not spending their money and not enjoying themselves.

Your friend is being ridiculous, and also letting the terrorists win. Go out and enjoy your day, Manchester is a lovely city.

user1497435493 · 14/06/2017 11:21

Oh FGS!

IDismyname · 14/06/2017 11:24

London is very quiet IMHO

NooNooHead1981 · 14/06/2017 11:25

I'm going to the Take That concert in Norwich tomorrow, and if I was being very cautious then I would say I won't go. But I've seen Take That playing since I was 12 years old (I'm now 36!) and am not going to stop living my life thinking 'what ifs' and letting the terrorists win. The chances of another attack so soon are pretty low and the security after an attack is always much higher.

Tell you friend not to worry so much and live her life to the full. We could all get run over by a bus tomorrow, but does that stop people crossing the road? It is understandable to be worried, I know, but we just have to get on with it. I didn't like going on the tube for years after the London attacks, but I did and was fine. :-)

lborgia · 14/06/2017 11:25

You're completely right Vestal lots of people went a bit nuts when I said I was going to US a week after 9/11... my argument was that there could never be a safer moment to go.

Take your top back, enjoy the sunshine!

drspouse · 14/06/2017 11:25

Friends who work in Manchester in a large govt building were told to stay home for a couple of days because the building and Victoria Station were closed. Not because it magically gets safer after a period of time.
Those who had worked in Manchester for a while were glad of the break as they remembered the IRA bombings which, because they were aimed at buildings, had potentially much worse consequences (I know the IRA say they "didn't target people" but a) they did and b) an accidental bomb blast in a huge building can affect 1000s of people).

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