To think there may be some way to get my ex back
Missshafinaa · 14/06/2017 10:15
When my daughter was born I shut everyone out. Was diagnosed with postnatal depression and left my ex.
He was absolutely heartbroken and had to have counselling and anti depressant and to cope. He loved me.
Now I've got better I realise it was my depression causing me not to want to be with my ex and I've secretly wanted to get back with him for months.
I was horrid to him and his family now hate me. He seems over me now anyway. AIBU to th and explain. Or do you Think there's probably too much water under the bridge now to even bother.
BeautyQueenFromMars · 14/06/2017 10:21
You could maybe write a letter of apology, explaining how the depression affected you. But don't apologise for being depressed! I wouldn't mention anything about wanting to get back together though. If he responds to the letter, you can take it from there. If he doesn't, then you know it's over and done with and you'll feel better for apologising.
Depression can be an evil beast, I'm sorry it affected you and your family so badly
FreeNiki · 14/06/2017 10:57
If you dont try you'll never know.
Telling him how you feel can only have a positive outcome imo.
Either you'll reconcile or you will have a much more amicable relationship which will only benefit your child.
I would also add that you should tell him you've been feeling this way for a while so he doesn't think it has just come out of the blue or that it has taken this long for you to come around.
BoysofMelody · 14/06/2017 12:48
I would attempt to explain and talk, not with a view to getting back together, but just so you can explain why you behaved in the way, get a sense of resolution and hopefully move towards a friendly relationship with your ex so you you can be on the same page when it comes to co-parenting your daughter.
The breakup also hurt him greatly and to put pressure on him to re-kindle a relationship he is probably still coming to terms with the end of, isn't fair. In fact it do seem it would be particularly healthy for either of you.
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