A dh one .
Dh has a tendency to be selfish. Say 20% of the time, the other 80% he is fine.
ATM he has hurt his back - won't see a doctor but it's getting better slowly. He also works pt ( semi retired) for 15-25 hours per week. Some shifts start at 5am.
I am mildly disabled mobility and chronic pain and work ft in an office role.
So, having a chat with the pil's yesterday and mil asks if I've come straight from work ( I had, was in office clothes- out of work I live in jeans), dh pipes up "Work, that's not work, she just sits on her arse all day!" For clarity I also earn 3* what he does and have been the main breadwinner for over 10 years.
Yesterday he was up at 4, worked 5-10:30, came home, had a couple of hours sleep, got his lunch, walked the dog, shower then I picked him up to go to pil. And a couple of hours watching TV/ on tinternet .
I was up at 6, walked dog , put laundry on vacuumed, got ready for work, worked 9-5 shopping on lunch, drive to pil, prepared dinner for them/ dh ( they are 85 and very frail, we do this a couple of times a week) . I couldn't eat with them due to my medication, then home for half 8 ish, made bed, washed up then read for an hour. Dh watched the football.
I do not just sit on my arse all day!
So, do I say something ( which will get back to mil and she will blame herself for asking me the question) or do I grit my teeth and get on with it?