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To dream of becoming an actress?

57 replies

BlackAppleCore · 13/06/2017 16:51

Even though I'm 36?

Have always dreamt of it. I think I'd be good at it as I can completely become a different character/persona at will and can take on completely fake emotion to the point that I can convince myself that I'm upset etc. I know it's unrealistic now but HOW unrealistic is it?

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Bluewombler2k · 13/06/2017 23:48

Blackapple are you going to come back to your thread?

TabascoToastie · 14/06/2017 00:03

My mum started pursuing acting in her 40s and has made an okay career. Not enough to quit her day job (freelance bookkeeping) but she's done guest spots on Casualty, Doctors, all those shows, a few TV commercials, and loads of fringe theatre (but at well-regarded London fringe theatres whose productions get reviewed in the national press, not pub fringe).

Being in London or a major city is pretty much essential to pursue acting professionally. But if you want to do it, DO IT!! I don't know why people are tearing you down for having dreams, do people think the OP is imagining she'll be on set snogging George Clooney within a year?

If you only want to perform or get a feel for it, amdram can be a great way to go. Though scope out what amdrams you have locally, because some can be dire (the kind where the same people always get the leads regardless of talent or being within 40 years of the right age range, you know the kind of thing). Or explore acting classes like evening classes, even decent community colleges might do acting evening classes.

Becoming a professional actor is extremely difficult and requires a lot more than being emotional and inhabiting a character. 99% of the work is not playing characters but all the other stuff, like showreels headshots and auditions. Audition technique is different from good acting. So perhaps amdram would be best; only you can know.

Alternatively have you ever considered writing? An ability to invent characters and mentally inhabit them is absolutely the quality you need to be able to write (more so than acting, where you play characters someone else has invented and play them the way a director tells you) and anyone with a bit of spare time and a pad and pen/laptop can write something, it doesn't take the special training and pricey items acting requires.

Nettletheelf · 14/06/2017 00:10

I know that some people will tell you to follow your dreams, etc., but I'm not one of them. You might succeed, but the chances are remote. I think you'd just end up disappointed. The few available parts will be hoovered up by the other 2,000 actresses in your age range, some of whom will be 'name' actresses.

I'm more in favour of following logic and probability: stick with your current career and, as others have suggested, try am dram.

Groupie123 · 14/06/2017 06:44

It's nearly impossible for a woman over 30 to break into acting in the same way men can. If you haven't made it by 30, as a female actor, then chances are it won't happen.

RedBullBlood · 14/06/2017 08:08

It's a bit pie in the sky. Try the am-dram first, you might find what comes easily to you in private may be more difficult in front of a group of people.

A relative used to work in casting for a soap. All their actors came from talent agencies. To sign up to an agency with absolutely no experience would be pointless, it would cost you money for nothing (a bit like some of those modelling agencies) and a good talent agency would most likely turn you away. Acting can be a tricky business even for those with experience.

ItMustBeBedtimeSurely · 14/06/2017 08:15

Do it. Join a drama group, take some classes and see what happens. If it doesn't work out, at least you've tried and hopefully had some fun and challenged yourself in the mean time.

I seriously do not understand the attitude that says it's hard so don't bother. What a way to live!

The op is a woman in her 30s, I'm sure she understands the realities. Absolutely no good reason not to give it a go though.

Moanyoldcow · 14/06/2017 08:25

You need to do some actual acting - join an am dram society and see how you do.

Lots of people came through ours without being able to cope with line learning, projection or general stage-craft even though they desperately wanted to do it. We had people with nerves that made them vomit and you won't know this stuff unless you try it out.

If you enjoy it and are genuinely good after a few productions then take it from there.

MrsJayy · 14/06/2017 08:30

Liz smith was 50 when she started acting, go for it Dd is a drama student oldest person in her class is mid 30s

TrinityTaylor · 14/06/2017 08:30

Start by googling "screen acting class" in your nearest big city. If you can get into London, Manchester or Birmingham those are your best bets. Sign up for a beginner level course at your chosen one (there are hundreds), and go from there, there will be loads in the same boat. It's fun and you will learn a lot about yourself. Then perhaps join an extras agency. Extra work is not acting and you can't use it as proof of professional work but for a beginner it can give you a good insight in to how being on set etc is. Then you can look into sites like casting call pro, do some student films and see how you get on. Go into it for FUN not a career and you'll have a great time.

InLovewithaGermanFilmStar · 14/06/2017 08:52

I think I'd be good at it as I can completely become a different character/persona at will and can take on completely fake emotion to the point that I can convince myself that I'm upset etc

OP it's not your age - although there are thousands of would-be or resting actors, female in their 30s.

It's your unrealistic and frankly just wrong understanding of what acting entails. I used to work in the industry (not an actor though), and I remember a very famous director I was assistant for, telling me that acting is not about expressing your own emotions, but eliciting emotions in others - either the person you're playing against, but mostly, the audience.

If you're serious, have a look in your area for reputable adult acting classes. If you're in London, I'd recommend the Poor School. It's tough & serious. If you're elsewhere, have a look at WEA or FE Colleges running adult evening classes.

Yes, you can do amdram (goodness knows we all have), but there is some utterly atrocious acting there, so I'm not sure how much you'd learn. But you might start to understand that your view of what acting entails is completely unreasonable (you've posted in AIBU after all).

WizardOfToss · 14/06/2017 09:11

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LonnyVonnyWilsonFrickett · 14/06/2017 09:23

I soon learnt that although I was good, I wasn't good enough, nor pretty enough, thin enough or tough enough. Wizard are you me? That's exactly what happened to me after drama school Tough lessons to learn, eh? Flowers

OP, the only way to find out is to try, but honestly most local am dram is terrible and will only (said with love) encourage some of the bad habits your post alludes to. Find a decent acting class, probably in your nearest big city, and see how you go. But be prepared for disappointment.

Do you read plays or books about acting, by the way? I would recommend that you do, to start to get a feel for some of the techniques. If I say try Uta Hagen's Challenge for the Actor I'll find out if Wizard went to the same college as me

waitforitfdear · 14/06/2017 09:30

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Are you in calamity Jane it sounds fun Smile

WizardOfToss · 14/06/2017 09:32

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Oliversmumsarmy · 14/06/2017 09:57

You can look up acting jobs or extra work on line. They wont be huge roles or pay much. Or you might get into a student film which usually pays anything from £0 - expenses or if you are lucky as much as £50.

Not the extra work but the rest would get you material for a show reel .

I don't doubt that there are lots of people who are unemployed at some point each year and a lot who work in call centres. The jobs don't just marry up from one week to the next.

Yes to Am Dram.

One of the things to remember is there is an awful lot of hanging around .

Also auditions are not just on how good an actor you are but on how well you fit in looks wise with the rest of the cast. (I know one person who got to the last 2 for a major film role and didn't get it because he had green eyes and the others they had cast who were meant to be part of the same family had blue eyes)

JaneJeffer · 14/06/2017 09:58

acting is not about expressing your own emotions, but eliciting emotions in others this is so true.

TabascoToastie · 14/06/2017 10:00

One point mentioned above: talent agencies do NOT charge money. They work entirely on commission always.. Any talent agency that expects you to pay a penny is a scam.

Figaro2017 · 14/06/2017 10:09

You gotta have a dream
If you don't have a dream
How you gonna have a dream come true?

Happy Talk from South Pacific (covered by Captain Sensible!)

Gruach · 14/06/2017 10:27

It's tough & serious.

It is. Serious actors/actresses work incredibly hard. And there's a reason why they go through drama school - you really need to learn how to think, at a very high level. Thinking hones talent.

I am a great believer in taking a leap - at any age. I guess you could rely on luck, but if you want something on which to base solid progression I would suggest you spend several weeks researching every drama school in the country, sort out open days or visits, meet tutors and students and find out what's really involved. Then proceed from there.

user1485342611 · 14/06/2017 10:56

I think Am Dram is getting an unfair press on here. I work backstage with a local theatres group and there are some phenomenally good amateur actors around - better than some who work professionally on the stage

It's been a real eye opener for me.

WizardOfToss · 14/06/2017 11:02

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LonnyVonnyWilsonFrickett · 14/06/2017 11:07

I read Year of the King as my first year prep work Grin

Bluewombler2k · 14/06/2017 11:11

waitforit Think of one with an umbrella and splashing in puddles. Hoping I don't out myself here! It so much fun, bur still a bit scary

Figaro2017 · 14/06/2017 11:28

Thanks bluewomble. Guess what I'm now whistling round the house!!!!

user1485342611 · 14/06/2017 11:32

Yes I agree Wizard. I was just making the point that the OP shouldn't be put off joining a local theatre group. If she looks around, there are some very good ones.

I do think trying to make a living out of acting is hard for anyone; and someone in their thirties who has had no training or experience is facing an uphill struggle.