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To think, sometimes, husband's rock...?

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ChildishGambino · 12/06/2017 23:31

So, sometimes we need help and they don't help. But...sometimes they actually do. Please post the kindest thing your DH has done for you since you've had Dc's...let's put some positivity out there!

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limitedperiodonly · 13/06/2017 18:41

Is that what he tells you?

Cocopopsrule · 13/06/2017 18:43

Kindest thing my DH has done for since having DC was to care for me and tiny baby DC and get to work whilst I was bedbound for 8 weeks and in great pain whilst awaiting an operation and in the recovery which lasted 3 more months. I'm the initial 8 weeks cared for me as in feeding, washing dressing me, helping me get to the loo, hounding the doctors to get me the care I needed. Without a single word of complaint, with much gentleness. This was probably the biggest gesture of love I've received from anyone other than my own parents.

HoneyDragon · 13/06/2017 18:45

No Limited in fairness mostly what DH tells me is "HD you are a fucking liability" and "I don't think that's entirely wise, dear".

Mrsmadevans · 13/06/2017 18:51

Thank you HoneyDragon (fab name btw!)

limitedperiodonly · 13/06/2017 18:54

I like the first comment but the second makes me think the passion could be going out of your marriage.

HoneyDragon · 13/06/2017 18:57

I was trying to convince him we should get a goat and let it live in the house like rabbits and guinea pigs do.

limitedperiodonly · 13/06/2017 18:58

My husband changed my wee bag in intensive care when I was admitted to hospital shortly after our marriage.

It was very nice of him to help the nurses but I can't help thinking a bit of the mystery died that day.

CoconutGal · 13/06/2017 19:01

DH & I are both going through a rough time with our jobs this year & it's not been looking promising for us. I had a particularly bad day today, attended an interview that I so desperately wanted & failed. I arrived back home feeling miserable & was sobbing on the phone to DH who couldn't get out of work to come home. He called my best friend & she turned up on my doorstep with a cuddle & flowers telling me hubby had sent her to check I was ok. Lovely since I haven't seen my best friend for weeks.

HoneyDragon · 13/06/2017 19:02

See that is love. Dh does occasionally stick his finger up my nose when I'm trying to fit a new nose stud....but apparently he finds that oddly sexy. I try not to think to hard about that one.

niceupthedance · 13/06/2017 19:05

I was depressed and unemployed last year and begged DP to get a puppy, promised him I'd do all the night wakings etc. Got a puppy and two weeks later I started a full time job. Needless to say DP did ALL the night wakings and still gets up nine out of 10 times at 5am or whatever ungodly hour our teenage dog decides is the morning.

Plus he is wonderful on a daily basis and I am very lucky to have found him.

Welshmaenad · 13/06/2017 19:06

The husband was rubbish.

DP though We went away on the weekend for his birthday, I have fibromyalgia but really pushed myself with loads of walking as he wanted to look around places and see the arboretum. When we got home Sunday night I was shaking with pain. So he installed me on the sofa, told me he would do anything I needed done to feel better - brought tablets and coffee, ordered and plated me up a Chinese, then wrapped me up in a blanket for a cuddle and stroked my hair until it all stopped hurting.

Given that I left my ex because he didn't give two shits about how I was feeling and saw my illness as a bloody inconvenience, this sort of gentle kindness is still a miracle to me.

niceupthedance · 13/06/2017 19:06

(Oh and for anyone from the doghouse, puppy stays at home with the au pair not on his own )

limitedperiodonly · 13/06/2017 19:06

You know when I said he was a keeper?

HoneyDragon · 13/06/2017 19:10

Original poster

ChildishGambino · 13/06/2017 19:11

I didn't mean to alienate those without a DH. DP's are welcome too. I've jut seen so many posts where people are unhappy I thought it'd be nice to have a happy one.

No insult intended

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WowserBowser · 13/06/2017 19:11

I once thought I had lost a tampon after I couldn't locate the string.

DH rifled around like James Herriot helping birth a calf.

False alarm, luckily.

BetterEatCheese · 13/06/2017 19:11

Mine helps out at my allotment and does all the donkey work even though it's not his thing at all.

NC4now · 13/06/2017 19:18

I had a traumatic failed coil fitting a few weeks ago. He's coming with me tomorrow for a second go, so I don't have to drive home in a state if it goes wrong again.

He also ninja'd it across the kitchen and caught me when I fainted, before I hit the deck.

limitedperiodonly · 13/06/2017 19:18

I know what you meant OP. We need a thread in praise of men because Mumsnet is full of man-haters. Not me though. I luffs 'em.

HoneyDragon · 13/06/2017 19:21

DH rifled around like James Herriot helping birth a calf

ToriaPumpkin · 13/06/2017 19:49

Removed my VCH piercing while I was in labour with DC2 - it was a complicated labour that looked like it was heading to theatre and the midwife asked if it could be taken out. I was creasing up with contractions and all sorts of things were exiting my body but he did it without flinching. Given he passed out when he watched me having my contraceptive implant removed I was highly impressed!

CakeNinja · 13/06/2017 22:01

Wowser, that's really and truly brilliant

My own dp has been a real arse just recently but reading these has made me smile. :)

bananafish81 · 13/06/2017 23:23

Not since we had DC, but because we can't have DC (infertility and miscarriage, now at the end of the road and have to accept I can't carry)

DH took in a parcel for the neighbour (he works at home) and texted me at work to say he didn't spot it until he'd accepted the delivery, that it was a big box of baby stuff, and he didn't want me to get ambushed with it when I walked in the front door and saw it there in the hallway.

I really appreciated the warning, but I appreciated it even more when I got in and saw that he'd taken his coat down off the coat rack and draped it over the box so I didn't have to see it at all

He's my rock.

bananafish81 · 13/06/2017 23:28

On a more lighthearted note, I went out for a night on the razz with some mates, and when I stumbled in at some obscene time, I found he'd left me a bottle of water, two nurofen, a can of fat coke and a packet of salt and vinegar crisps on the bedside table for when I woke up with a raging hangover.

Many moons ago when we first started going out he also went tampon diving when one got stuck - I said I needed to go to A&E because I was mortified with embarrassment. He told me to stop being a baby and let him have a go first to save us waiting for hours. And he only bloody did it. Thank fuck he didn't put a head torch on.

Reader, I married him.

BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 14/06/2017 00:11

I'm nominating this thread for Classics.

We need a counter balance to the horrors that dominate these boards.

As an example of what people should be aiming for/expecting.

Would be a good follow-on from Reality's sticky.

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