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AIBU to not want my DP to keep our DS in modelling?

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MrMichaelsJones · 12/06/2017 22:46

My DP gave birth 4 weeks ago. We have a gorgeous baby boy. It all started about 2 weeks ago when she told me that he had been accepted into her chosen agency. She hadn't even discussed it before hand Sad I asked if we could talk about it and she said no and that it's something nice for her to do while on mat leave (will also be going part-time). Anyway she signed up (money used from our shared account, which is supposed to only go on food shopping and anything that our baby needs) it was only £25 or something but it's not the point, it's the fact that she wouldn't even talk about it.

He was asked to go to a casting for Mothercare and I didn't get to see him during my lunch break that day Sad he then got the job for Mothercare and that was on a weekend and our family day was ruined. I was sitting at home on my own as they don't advise any more than 1 guardian go along. He has also recently been picked for something else.

I personally think it's all too much. He's only little and it's already coming between our family.

AIBU?

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HeddaGarbled · 12/06/2017 23:01

I can see both sides of this issue. Presumably, you are getting paid for these bookings which should repay the £25 and then bring in extra which could be very useful for all of you.

However, it does seem high handed of her to do it without discussing it with you and taking into account your views.

Is there a compromise? She goes ahead but no bookings at weekends so that you don't miss out on time with your son? Invest the earnings into an account that will only be spent on your son or that you will keep for him as a nest egg when he is older?

He must be an absolute cutie if he's getting bookings already. No guarantee it will last though - they change so quickly at this age.

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MrMichaelsJones · 13/06/2017 01:02

Thank you that's a good idea

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tigerskinrug · 13/06/2017 01:19

I'm just thinking back to when my dc1 was newborn...I could barely get out the door when he was 2 weeks old let alone think about signing him up to a modelling agency. I must admit I always suspect that parents who think about modelling their children very early have self esteem issues. OP is your DW a model?

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MrMichaelsJones · 13/06/2017 01:35

It's funny, she isn't the type you'd think would think about modelling their baby. It took me by surprise.

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Alittlepotofrosie · 13/06/2017 02:25

That's not really fair on you is it if its impacting you spending time with your baby on the weekend.

Terfing · 13/06/2017 04:25

Are you sure that the agency is legit? A lot of scams out there.

In my experience, you don't usually know what company a casting is for, especially if it is a big name?

MrsTerryPratchett · 13/06/2017 04:48

2 weeks old? She must be bloody motivated.

GloriaV · 13/06/2017 04:51

You take baby on weekend assignments as you see less thro the week

DotForShort · 13/06/2017 04:56

Are babies as young as two weeks allowed to do modeling in the U.K.? Genuine question. I know that in some countries six weeks is the very earliest age permitted.

I wouldn't like it either, OP. The baby doesn't benefit from the experience in any way, and your time with him is limited by your working hours. I would certainly talk to her about your thoughts on the subject.

GeekyWombat · 13/06/2017 06:02

I'm not sure any bona fide agency would charge sign up fees. It sounds like vanity company nonsense to me.

Alittlepotofrosie · 13/06/2017 06:28

Why should the op take him if he doesn't agree with it?

JeNeSuisPasVotreMiel · 13/06/2017 06:58

Really?

HarrietKettleWasHere · 13/06/2017 07:07

2 weeks? Honestly?

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MrMichaelsJones · 13/06/2017 09:41

Yes, it's Bonnie & Betty. Sorry if you don't believe me 🤔 not really sure what to say to that! Hang on a sec and I'll get some proof.

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MrMichaelsJones · 13/06/2017 09:50

Here... This is on his actually website bit. This is just to show age btw. I don't agree that it should be allowed from so young either but it was and is! The 25 quid was apparently for the website bit.

AIBU to not want my DP to keep our DS in modelling?
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MrMichaelsJones · 13/06/2017 09:53

@Terfing it's definitely legit. He got the job for it. I don't have an issue with it not being legit. I did do my research when she declared she was doing it. That's the only reason I typed the name here, but if that looks like I'm trying to promote it (I'm not and don't put your kids in modelling!!) then Mumsnet can remove the name Smile

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hungrygurl · 13/06/2017 21:31

Very selfish of her not to even discuss it with you. I'd be fuming if DP did that.

You want to spend time with your baby!. Not baby being pushed in front of cameras for hours at a time!.

Your DP sounds like she has self esteem issues to be doing this so quickly, as well as disregarding your concerns

Allthebestnamesareused · 13/06/2017 21:58

What accent has he got? Grin

LightDrizzle · 13/06/2017 22:02

That should definitely be a two parent decision. YANBU.

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