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AIBU?

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user1497208128 · 12/06/2017 13:16

My partner works away, 3 weeks at a time, then is home for 3 weeks. AIBU to think that he may want to spend some time with me? I do work Monday - Friday 9-5, and tend to take some days off here and there when he is home.

I have taken today and tomorrow off as annual leave and I fully regret it. I'm currently sitting in the car, at a shopping centre where I have walked away from him whilst he is shopping for clothes for his holiday because I refuse to be one of those people who have an argument in public. He walks ahead of me, doesn't even talk to me or ask me if I would like to go in anywhere. He has this scowl on his face and if I ask if everything is okay I get left with "yeah", nothing else.

I have driven over 70 miles so he could shop yet I would actually rather be at work! Is there's way that I can tackle this issue before it becomes even bigger than it should be.

I just want a conversation, maybe even my hand held 🙁. Pathetic I know, but I just like the feeling of being "loved"

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Shoxfordian · 12/06/2017 13:20

Is he annoyed about something or is he always like this? Drive home without him if he's being this difficult

user1497208128 · 12/06/2017 13:25

I've tried asking if there was something wrong, every time I have no as an answer but I don't want to keep pushing if that makes sense? I know if it was me I would lose the plot!

I have told him I am leaving in 10 minutes if he wants a lift. Unsure if he will take the offer up!

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Justmadeperfectflapjacks · 12/06/2017 13:27

Is there a particular reason he isn't happy to be at home with you?
Or a particular ow?
'his' holiday - why aren't you going?

Boulshired · 12/06/2017 13:38

It does not sound like you communicate very well with each other, can you not make plans together that you both agree with prior. The shopping sounds pretty normal for me, I let him do his thing and I browse elsewhere, he will text if he wants my input then we have lunch. It is not really a very interactive experience for us as he is very agenda organised he is there to shop and that is all he is there for until we eat. I am not much different especially with clothes shopping.

ImperialBlether · 12/06/2017 13:42

Are you happier when he's working away?

Does he phone to chat when he's away? Chat as in having a proper conversation rather than just calling to give you information.

user1497208128 · 12/06/2017 15:19

Yes I am happier when he is away at work. Our relationship has been shitty for last 3 months, there is no ow as he doesn't have it in him. And his holiday is a 'lads' one in Ibiza. Not best pleased as if it was me heading off there he would have a massive issue with it!

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temporaryfiles · 12/06/2017 15:20

Doesn't sound worth it OP

leave him and be happy x

CondensedMilkSarnies · 12/06/2017 15:24

A lads holiday to Ibiza ? How old are you both Op ? This doesn't sound promising tbh.

Figaro2017 · 12/06/2017 15:25

Yes I am happier when he is away at work

I know I'm not Sherlock Holmes, but isn't that your answer?

ImperialBlether · 12/06/2017 15:47

Life can be very short and you have to make the most of it. On the other hand it can seem very long if you're married to the wrong man. Too long.

You're happier when he's not there. That says it all.

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