AIBU?
Dad Giving 14yo DD alcohol.
tinkerbellone · 11/06/2017 19:33
My ex doesn't communicate with me at all so all messages have to go through a third party. My kids see their dad on average once a week.
They've come back from there and told me that he gives eldest cans of alcohol. She's 14.
I'm fuming. What can I do?
She told me she didn't drink much of it but he still gave her a second can. I have found out today that this is a regular occurrence. 
House4 · 11/06/2017 19:41
I'd be fuming too and have just started to think about how to avoid this exact scenario in the next couple of years. Will read any advice on here with great interest. Think I'll get in first with my ex before it's even considered. Maybe look up the health risks and discuss with your daughter. Can you send a text to your ex or discuss your concerns with the third party? In my opionion it's very inappropriate to give alchohol to youngsters.
tinkerbellone · 11/06/2017 19:46
Regular as probably every two weeks. BBQ's etc.
I don't think a little sip or a small glass is wrong at 14 but a full can & then opening her another one when she hasn't even drunk the first one.
He's a big drinker too.
I've googled it and can see it's legal but surely there are limits to what you can give a 14yo?
SheRasBra · 11/06/2017 20:32
My family are all big social drinkers and our kids are often offered a small glass of champagne or a sip of something at family gatherings. We tend to say no - only because I have read research that suggests early teenage drinking (being exposed to booze while the brain is still developing) makes them more likely to drink heavily later in life. Also, it's hard to draw the line once you've said yes, you can have a drink.
Very difficult though. Many 14 year olds are starting to go to parties where they have access to drink.
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