AIBU in wondering why...

[IntheBenefitTrap]

My DH finds rape jokes funny? Or sexual assault against women.

For example, he's watching The Office US and the boss said something like "mistletoe isn't an excuse for sexual assault" and he found it hilarious.

If we're watching TV or a comedy series and there are similar jokes, they are generally the only ones he finds amusing. Same with Internet memes and jokes online.

He's never shown any signs of sexual abuse, nothing in his past, nothing to me. I HATE rape jokes, they're vile and derogatory - why do they make him laugh?!

How is "mistletoe isn't an excuse for sexual assault" a rape joke? There's no such thing as 'rape culture' so he can't be perpetuating it. Laughter is simply a release of tension. This can be because a joke makes you feel awkward or embarassed.

I think the expected "patriarchal norms" and "misogynist" are unbelievably wide of the mark.

I'm disappointed there hasn't been a "is he abusive in other ways" reply.

Punkrocker - do you actually have some sort of problem? How dare you tell complete lies about me. The other thread about men in women's changing rooms is nothing to do with this thread and I never once said I agree with men "rocking up" in women's changing areas. What I did say was that as I'm disabled, I need my husband's help as my carer and we always ask first.

Enabling him to do what? Be a fantastic husband, father and carer while holding down a professional career and being a downright lovely person? He finds a certain type of dark humor funny so that makes him an abusive mysogynist? Dear me. Yes, I'm very proud actually. You know nothing about him, me or our situation so leave me alone.

Reporting you now, as you're bordering on harassment.

I have Shox :) We had quite the discussion last night and he completely understands where I'm coming from.

Just an example, Neo - first one I could think of as it had just happened. I was expecting abuse to be brought up I think. He's not, in any way. We had a chat about it and he seems to have come to the conclusion that it's because it's one of the worst things you could laugh at so a release of tension as you said yourself. Same as the laughing at a funeral sort of concept.