Feeling guilty child only does 1 club after school

[Wonders71]

Was reading a blogger on fb and she posted about all the clubs her children do and the comments section was full of how many clubs other peoples children do felt really guilty that my dc only does one....do children need to go to them.

Ignore others, don't judge yourselves by what they do. My eldest is 13 and has never done any clubs, she just isn't interested. Doesn't make her any less of a person. Youngest has done various different ones, but isn't interested in anything at the moment. I never did any and I still managed to turn into a (fairly normal ) adult! It just seems the norm these days to shove your kids into as many things as possible, whether they want to do it or not.

Ignore others, don't judge yourselves by what they do. My eldest is 13 and has never done any clubs, she just isn't interested. Doesn't make her any less of a person. Youngest has done various different ones, but isn't interested in anything at the moment. I never did any and I still managed to turn into a (fairly normal ) adult! It just seems the norm these days to shove your kids into as many things as possible, whether they want to do it or not.

How do they manage to fit in homework?

Either they don't or they do it before bed and go to bed late :( (not my children so I have no say in this)

My 8yo does loads of clubs and also has plenty of time for homework and play dates and just hanging out.

Irritates me when people take pops about lazy parenting palming her off... yeah, 20 mins drive each way to gymnastic dance yesterday then sitting around for 45 mins was quality time to myself

She does loads because she wants to do loads. She's happy, I'm happy. And it's no better or worse than a child who doesn't do any.

My DC do Kuk Sool Won which a is a Korean martial art. They have 3 sessions per week and they love it! It's expensive but I don't mind as I am basically get 3 Physio session per week for my hypermobile kids!

My DCs hardly ever do clubs. They have just never wanted to. When they were younger they were keen to come home at the end of the day. Now they like to just go tot he park with their friends and play some football or chat. I think the whole after school club thing can get very competitive.

Everyone's different but I didn't do any clubs as a child- Mum didn't have the money or time and I feel that was a real loss. I wish I had been able to pursue the hobby I loved (which I now do as an adult) or that I had been taught to play an instrument.

My daughter will be offered a full range (a lot at school rather than after I think) to choose from and hopefully she will find one or two she is passionate about.

Hopefully school will offer some good activities for your children as it absolutely is a nightmare to have to add it all on at the end of the school day.

My boys go to Scouts. One goes to a lunchtime chess club and the other to a lunchtime Warhammer club. They don't need to be over-timetabled, in my opinion children need to learn to entertain themselves instead of having activities laid on for them all the time.

My 7 year old does swimming, Beavers and youth theatre. He did do football as well but did nothing but moan he was cold so we gave it up, he's nipping my head to start cricket now as he tried it out at a sports hub thing at his school and really enjoyed it.

I'm a bit reluctant as that's Mon and Wed evenings and Sat morning I'm out of the house, I'd be adding Thursday evening onto that as well. DS is a ridiculously social little boy who loved being with people and doing stuff, I always have this overwhelming guilt if I'm not entertaining or socialising him constantly. He's an only child and doesn't have that other child interaction at home he would be out doing an activity every night if he had his way.

My kids have something most days. Doesn't help that they do different clubs that aren't on the same day. I want to cut down really as it's too much. Takes up the whole evening and you're rushing around trying to get tea sorted.

If they couldn't care less then what's the problem? You can't force them to participate in clubs.