To buy my DS a dress?

[Isthereanyusernamesleft]

I've one DS, he is my first & last (traumatic birth).

He's only 10 weeks so is still quite neutral I.E you can't necessarily tell he's a boy yet!

I think dresses are lovely & as I don't follow this gender society crap of girls wear dresses & pink & boys wear blue & trousers.....I don't see the issue in putting my DS in a dress.

However, everyone else thinks it's wrong!

Is it??

[Beadoren]

Op do you think there's a chance if you have gender identity issues you may be
Projecting them onto your child?

[PinkPeppers]

Xpost.

Ok i think there are other big issues going on there and if yu have or are still seeing a counsellor about it, i would advise yu to have a chat with them about this idea.

If you wouldnt do it when he will be old enough to understand, then why would you do it now??

[Joffmognum]

I personally think my 8mo would look gorgeous in a dress.

Go for it, christening robes are sort of dresses anyway and no one makes a fuss about them.

Just don't take him to see the health visitor, she might worry about your mental health.

[WhiskyTangoFoxtrot]

I'm sure some of the smocked stuff Prince George wore could be reasonably described as dresses. And the kind of old-fashioned drawstring-bottom nighties always used to be unisex.

So I think it can be done, though easier to pull of friends if you're rather posh

[NotMyPenguin]

YANBU. Why on earth not? Babies are babies, we dress them in the things we like and they have lots of time from when they are about 2 years to go ahead and decide for themselves later on. Every parent makes decisions about how to dress their baby, and no parent has a clue about whether the baby likes it (nor could they reasonably be expected to).

"As much as you don't buy into the gender crap, by putting him in a dress you're sort of taking that decision of whether to follow it away from him?"

Er, this is exactly the same decision that parents make all the time in putting a child in (quote unquote) 'gender appropriate' clothing.

[Whosthemummynow]

Fucking bonkers

[FishInAWetSuitAndFlippers]

It sounds like you have some issues and you're going to pass them onto your son.

If you had been given a bunch of clothes by someone who had a girl that's one thing, to go out of your way to buy impractical baby clothes to prove a point that's different, especially as you don't intend to allow him to dress that way when he is older anyway.

[Offherhead]

I get that a lot of clothes targeted at boys are boring. Why not shop around for brands that are more colourful or are striking and very much aimed at babies.
Scandi brand clothing is very popular for being less distinctly gender oriented. You might not like the patterns or bright colours though.
In which case some of the French brands might appeal as they are often more "classic".

[NotMyPenguin]

Seriously, everyone thinking this is weird, would you think it was weird to dress a baby girl in trousers and a top?

Get thee back to the Victoria era!!!!

[MaisyPops]

If he was a toddler and wanted it then I'd say fine. I'm not for reinforcing stereotypes rigidly.
But equally, I'm not a fan of parents turning their child's gender identity into a talking point or statement. To me putting a male baby in a dress at 10 weeks is for the parent not the child.

[harderandharder2breathe]

You sound like you want a doll rather than a baby.

[Firenight]

Get him a night gown. Perfect for babies and great for middle of the night nappy changes.

Or take up historical reenactment and you can have him in skirts for years at the weekend.

[muckypup73]

This is Daily mail fodder

[shinyredbus]

Fgs don't be so bloody wierd! You have a son.

[NotMyPenguin]

This is also a problem you will continue to encounter as your child grows up: clothing is terribly, terribly gendered and frustrating.

Boys get clothing in the most utterly boring shades of mud. They are however practical, hard-wearing and have pockets. However they are relentlessly joyless and often the only graphics are of things like tractors and animals that roar.

Girls get clothing in pink and pastel. None of the girls' clothes have pockets, and most restrict their movement in some way (e.g. skin tight jeans, dresses that cause playground accidents).

Polarn O Pyret is pretty good for colourful, joyful, practical clothing for kids of whatever gender.

Machine dye (like Dylon) is your friend. So are Actual Colours in bright shades like purple, orange, magenta, indigo, green and yellow.

[Crumbs1]

Ridiculous and damaging. If we want our children to grow up with a healthy sexuality then we do have to teach them gender norms. We have to socialise them as their gender i.e. teach them to be boys or girls just as we teach using cutlery and the lavatory.
No wonder we have so many children with mental health problems and confusion over gender if parents actively contribute to the damage.

[Seeingadistance]

There was a time, as I've already pointed out, when it was dresses which were unisex for babies and small children, and trousers were for grown men.

I don't see why the OP is being given such a hard time over this.

[Patriciathestripper1]

Buy yourself a doll and play dress up with that.
Wtf are you thinking?? This is all about you.

[NotYoda]

I agree. It's got lazy journalist written all over it

[phoenixtherabbit]

Dressing a girl in trousers and a top is not the same as dressing a boy in a dress in my opinion

Trousers and tops are not just for boys where as dresses are for girls. Yes that's gender stereotyping and if my son wants to wear a dress I will buy him one but until then i don't honestly see the point in dressing him essentially as a girl for my own enjoyment?

[drspouse]

Seeing I have a lovely photo of my DGF and his brother in dresses on their farm in the 1920s standing by their "potato patch" (a tiny flowerbed).

[Isthereanyusernamesleft]

This is absolutely nothing to do with myself wishing I was born a man.....I don't require counselling because I wish I was born a man, I have absolutely NO desire to become one.....I am a female & I will stay that way.

I am not projecting onto my DS.

I simply would like to dress him in various different clothing which includes dresses as I very much like the way they look.

If a dress is impracticable then I understand & will take that on board.

I am the first person to agree children have rights & choice as I've always been honest with family that should my son request anything that is deemed gender specific, id happily buy it for him.

He currently has pink bottles & pink muslins, solely because the bottles were cheaper than the blue ones & the muslins were given to me by a friend who has a girl.....am I wrong for using them??

[AfunaMbatata]

You have issues, dont pass them onto your son.