Public domestic?

[Tainbri]

I was shopping today and my attention was drawn to a mum going absolutely ballistic at her (6yo?) son. I have absolutely no idea what the lead up to this was but it was the mother that made me look round, not the behaviour of the boy. When I looked he was hanging his head in shame, she was shouting. I just can't get it out of my mind. I thought it was none of my business but it's niggleing me. AIBU?

I feel absolutely no shame in judging people who swear at children.

i massively shouted at my toddler in public recently, she had just run into the road and the car only just stopped. i have never known fear like it hence the shouting.

dont judge until you have walked a mile...

But why would you shout at the toddler? It's not like it was their fault

Don't get me wrong, I get that we sometimes react to fear by shouting, but saying 'don't judge until you have walked a mile' doesn't really fit in this case.

I must admit the "run into the road" scenario annoys me as well.

If your toddler runs into the road surely your instinct is to get her somewhere safe not shout at her or smack her.

If your toddler runs into the road surely your instinct is to get her somewhere safe not shout at her or smack her

You've clearly never had it happen to you have you?

I lost it once when dd was about 6 in the supermarket, it was too many years ago now to remember what exactly happened but from what I recall, she was just whining around the whole supermarket.

Anyhow we go to near the checkouts and dd was begging me for something, and I just said "piss off" to her quite loudly. It did actually get her to behave though.

Probably my worst parenting moment, and it's never happened again.

I have shouted at my six year old in shops. Extremely rarely. there's only so many times I can constantly repeat myself negotiate walking along dangerously busy roads or he running off in packed shops. If it will make her listen and understand the seriousness of what she's doing I don't give a fuck what perfect parents think. I'll bet. Tenner that those perfect parents judging my actions equally doesn't something that I silently judge them for too.

Toddlers only "run into the road" because deluded parents think their child has road sense so it's ok for them not to be holding hands, or on reins, or in a buggy. The only person at fault when a toddler "runs into the road" is the parent.

Wouldthat Omg! The poor thing. Did you say anything? X

Nokids Hahahahahahahaha! Can totally tell you have no kids!!!!
How do you propose you put the child in the car without opening the door and moving the straps etc on the car seat? Can't do that when holding a partially non verbal (or even autistic) toddler!!! And NO 2yr old will hold you hand!!!!!!

Grow the f up love!!! You have NO idea what it's like to be a parent....

If an adult is supervising a toddler who ends up running into the road and almost gets hit by a car, is the toddler really to blame?

I mean sometimes shit happens and you can't always blame the supervising adult.

But one thing is for sure, you can never blame the toddler. Hence why it's not fair to shout at them through fear or anything else.

Again, I get why people might shout at them...because the adult has had a huge scare and no doubt blames themself, but that doesn't make it fair on the toddler.

And NO 2yr old will hold you hand!!!!!!

That ^^ is not true. Some toddlers are happy to hold your hand and some really aren't.

However, just like many other things, safety around roads/traffic isn't optional.

So you never saw the crime yet you've decided that that the punishment didn't fit?

It was in Next. No dangers,
Really? So all kids can just run around shops because they clearly won't get hurt...

You didn't like shouting, not the womans fault.
You weren't there, you didnt see what the child did so yabu.

Toddlers only "run into the road" because deluded parents think their child has road sense so it's ok for them not to be holding hands, or on reins, or in a buggy. The only person at fault when a toddler "runs into the road" is the parent.
Ha

It isn't your place to get involved when - in your subjective opinion - a parent telling off their child is 'humiliating' them. Really, it isn't. The child wasn't in danger, wasn't being threatened. It is a parenting style you disagree with and that is all.

I witnessed an incident in H&M a couple of weeks ago that I thought was awful.

^Mother: I'm giving you to the count of three: one, two...
Child (aged 3 or 4): I'm sorry, Mama
Mother: Your sorries don't mean shit to me!^

I've not been in her shoes (childless for 5 more weeks, eek!) and I have no idea what had happened prior to that, but I thought that was an awful way to speak to anyone, let alone your child.

(And no 'almost ran over by a car situations here' - the city centre is pedestrian only).

Sorry, I meant to add that she was shouting quite loudly at the child otherwise I wouldn't have noticed. There were a few other choice swear words afterwards too.

Worra is absolutely right.

Lou, my toddler has, in fact, wandered into a road. My fault. Not his. I took my eye off the ball as I pulled into the drive and the dog got out and in that time DS saw a cat and went running after it.

Like I say, my fault.

And NO 2yr old will hold you hand!!!!!!

My 2.5yo nephew holds your hand and before he reliably did he had reigns.

Maybe the child is a little and the mum had just about had enough..who knows.

Maybe the child is a little and the mum had just about had enough..who knows.

Oh come on Wonders

Nokidshere you're fucking hilarious!!!

At least I hope your post was a joke. Children can bolt anytime anywhere. Nothing to do with parents thinking they have road sense and bring at fault.

That twattish comment just shows you think you know. But you don't.

calyrical sorry i forgot you never get naughty children my child is an angel all of the time 🤔

Don't blame the child.

That's not the same as not recognising that the mum may be under enormous strain.

IF the child is a "little (shit?)" it's either because of SEN, unhappiness, or a poor upbringing or all three.

None are his fault.

I was in a diy store with my dp last weekend. Heard a shout and looked around to see a boy of about 9 pushing a low trolley and an older gentleman who he was with jumping around obviously in pain. It appeared that the trolley caught the older man on the back of the legs. Then came over an older lady who shouted at the young boy. My dp said to me "that's what you get when you let children push trollies and you stop in front of them". We walked away.

My dp then told me he saw the older woman push the young boy. If I had seen it I would have said something. It was obviously an accident and I then saw the young boy crying bitterly. Poor thing with grandparents like that.

I saw that yesterday too..the kid, who was about 5, was standing right up to her...ballsy little chap.

when my toddler ran in to the road we were waiting by a lift in the shopping centre, i had her reins in my hand but she started running so suddenly and unexpectantly they slipped out of my hand and the door to the road was just there. yes i shouted at her because she scared the shit out of me, I didnt swear at her but I did shout.