To breastfeed in front of my sisters niece?

[DinosaursArentMakeBelieve]

My sister brought her 5 year old niece (no blood relation to me) over to stay a few weeks ago and I explained that my LO was breastfed and that means that Auntie uses her boobies to make milk for the baby.

My sister was great and helped explain what I was doing and why I was doing it. Also explained that "that's why women have boobies" and that they were to feed baby

She seemed fine with it but when she got home she mentioned it to her dad and he hit the roof! Said it's not right and that i shouldn't be doing it in front of a child
And that we aren't related so it was wrong!

Now I don't want to open up a debate about breastfeeding in public - this isn't something I've done yet as I haven't built up the nerve (but I think those that do are amazing)

I was doing this in my own home, which in my head was fine and was able to explain fully... how would you /your OH feel if someone not related to you breastfeed in front of your child?

I get the feeling he's in the boobs are for bonking not babies camp and given his choice, no mother of his children would breastfeed. Forcing her to watch?! What a ridiculous reaction.

When I was a child we were invited in to the house over the road to see the lady's daughter breastfeeding her baby. They were Italian and not related to us, but clearly thought we would like to see. This was about 1962!!! Why has so little progress been made since then? Breastfeeding is natural.

Invite him over for supper and when he starts eating scream in horror and throw a muslin over his head. He might have used that mouth for cunnilingus and no child should see that.

You are being totally reasonable. Please ignore the ignorant twat.Please.
Well done you and your sister for taking the time to explain breastfeeding to the child.

Poor girl - hope she doesn't have issues surrounding breastfeeding for her babies.

What a twat.

He sounds like a prize numpty and should plainly be ignored! His issues not yours.

Also forgot to add that my rather old fashioned at times DH also believes him to be a prize prat.

He's a dick. Of course there's nothing wrong with BF in front of a child!!!

Clearly he is an idiot his poor child if she decides to bf her own babies he will be running and hiding

YANBU. The dad of the little girl is BU. What did he expect you to do? Have your baby go hungry?

My mom once told me about an occasion when I was a baby, where a friend of hers had 'popped in' unannounced while my mom was on maternity leave. She had bought her 7-year old son with her. Mom went to feed me, and her 'friend' exclaimed, 'not in front of Billy', and told my mom - in her own fucking home - to go into the kitchen to feed me. My mom, who was never one to mince her words, said she told friend where to get off.

I never met this friend, they weren't friends much longer after that!

Some people are really weird.

I would just ignore and continue life as normal.

What an extremely silly man. If a five year old is uncomfortable seeing breastfeeding she is capable of looking elsewhere for the duration.

I agree with a previous poster. If you ever meet up with him, throw a muslin over his head because you never know when you might need to feed your baby.

He's ridiculous.

Might want to alert the BIL that one day his little girl will have breasts herself!

The guy is a pervert - plain and simple.

He sees breasts as sex toys and is responding accordingly.

Luckily his daughter will probably grow up better educated about BFing than her father.

Just ignore him and carry on as normal.

I wonder what he'd say to her when she's older and deciding to breastfeed her own baby 🤔 what a muppet he sounds.

I hope he wears a one-piece bathing suit that covers his dirty, sexual nipples whenever he goes to the beach or a pool.

People who think that being breastfed is good for children, but witnessing it would damage their delicate brains for some reason are just weird.

(Or did he insist that his daughter be bottlefed so that he could continue to sexualize her mother's breasts?)

He's an absolute dickhead!! What ridiculously moronic comments to make!!

You weren't unreasonable in the least. I fed my twins in front for every child that visited my child when they were babies and any child who was in a park/cafe/restaurant/shopping centre/church etc etc

Did you note the last one? I fed in church, a very formal, old fashioned church.

No one batted an eyelid.

My children has seen friends, relatives and strangers breastfeed, both in homes and out and about. Happily, they think it's normal.

Put your mind at rest, he can't use this to cause trouble for the child's Mum - any social worker or court would just think he was an idiot.

It's none of his damn business how you feed your own child in your own home.

at FreezerBird

I breastfed everywhere - shops, supermarkets, parks - so I wouldn't have thought twice about breastfeeding my baby in my house with visitors.

But I would have thought twice about turning it into a discussion about breastfeeding and the equivalent of a show-and-tell especially if the visiting child wasn't accompanied by their parents. Simply because people do have different views on when and how they teach their DCs about babies, the facts of life, breastfeeding, etc. And I think they're entitled to decide when and how their DCs are taught about it.

It has never occurred to me to not feed my DC in front of other children. What a strange, strange man. My nieces on DH's side can't get close enough to me when I'm feeding their cousins. They didn't know breasts could do that.