Ah a fucking in law one!

[QuestionableMouse]

(POSTING FOR A FRIEND!!)

Am I right to be fuming..

Today is my little boys first birthday and obviously we're having a bit of a tea party for him. I said to everyone who I invited that it's starting at 2, to give me time to get the food done and get tidied up ect (were having the party at my house).

So the OH'S parents, grandmother and sister pitch up at 10, because they couldn't come at 2 like everyone else..

The house was a tip, I was still sat in my jamas putting together DS's present, and when I spoke to the OH about it they've all fucked off in a rage...

What the fuck could be more important than your grandsons birthday party?!

Am I right to be fucking fuming with them that they've ruined our day??

I could just sit and cry.

YANBU

but agree, don't let them waste your day. It's a shame you didn't ask them to pitch in. It would have been more fun to sit them down to wait until you were ready.

On another note, food is different, but never plan to tidy up the house the morning before a party. It will be the day one of your kid smash his head and you spend the morning in A&E (for example). Go to bed with the house in the state you want it to be if someone pops in unannounced for breakfast. It works for me!

"when I spoke to the OH about it they've all fucked off in a rage."

Did you tell your OH (or them) that you wanted them to leave?

AWful people!
In all seriousness, I find people who turn up really early to be ruder than those who turn up really late, as I'm never ready until when the party starts!
4h is completely taking the piss and an attempt to show you that THEIR time is far more important than yours, or any time you should set for parties.
I'm glad they've gone, but very cross on your (friend's) behalf that they were a) so rude in the first place, and b) didn't bloody help out but had the outright gall to be angry because you weren't ready! I mean, WHO is ready 4h prior to the actual party??!

Hope your OH talks to them about this, because it doesn't bode well for the future.

It's power play. They think they are special. They will celebrate on their terms. The only person who can deal with this is your OH. And it depends what your, sorry your friends, OH's opinion is as to if this is the start or end of this drama. Ether your OH needs to stand up to his family, whatever that entails, they start respecting your family unit or end up NC hopefully the first, or your OH makes excuses for them, lets them get away with it and effectively give them permission to continue as they see fit. voice of bitter experience
BIL turned up for a big day out and arrived as they should have been leaving home. They had seen the whole place by the time we arrived, on time. We haven't met them like that again, shame OH can't stand up to his parents quite the same.

Don't let them spoil your day OP

Just forget about them - they aren't worth the energy of thinking about them