To swear occasionally around the DC / to swear when DC are asleep?

[Loopytiles]

DH objects when I (occasionally) swear in front of the DC (9 and 6), eg if I break something or am explaining with emphasis about a difficult situation. For example "shit" and "I was / she was pissed off". (I don't mean "worse" words or swearing AT the DC, or at DH in front of the DC).

He even objects if I swear in discussions in the car when they are fast asleep, or in our bedroom when they are asleep in their rooms.

I think he is U and that objecting every time (eg a sharp "don't swear" or even - this evening when we were alone in our room a sharp "shhh") is controlling.

But perhaps MNetters will disagree!

I swear in front of my DC (now 6&7). They know that they are not allowed to repeat it. I only say cunt in front of adults who won't be offended though.

I stopped being so careful when 4yo DD2 came home from school and said she'd learnt to spell a new word... Fuck.

I bloody love swearing though!

I had this conversation with DH the other night. I'm going to swear. I'm not talking about fisherman's wife standard but if I hurt myself and fuck blurts out I'm not going too be annoyed with myself. Now im not talking about letting young kids do it I do agree with the whole innocent thing but I think a certain age they know what a swear word is they're not daft neither are the kids they are around. So id rather not make it a taboo and teach the difference between a swear word to express yourself and when's appropriate and get bored of it rather than them just spouting every bit of nonsense they can for no reason because it's cool IYSWIS I've had parents that think they're kids are darling angels and then when they're out with no parent heard some of the foulest stuff I can imagine but ye there kids are angels that never swear feel like saying wake up guys.

I am a sweater. As a pp said: they are just words. I don't encourage it in my kids, and I do make it clear that there is a time and a place and I don't want them using these words in school. But...for fuck's sake - they are just WORDS

I am NOT a sweater!

I try not to swear around DC but swear a lot when they're not around. At work I swear way too much but I find it really relieves stress.

My 5 year old likes to tell me in shock horror that someone said shut up in class

See, I'd rather my kids said 'shit' than 'shut up' because the latter is generally dismissive and mean, whereas the former, depending on context, is just another expression of annoyance.

In fact, my son said 'shit' recently, and when I asked him what he'd said and if he knew what it meant, he said 'Yes, it's the word for when you've really hurt your leg and I said it because I just really hurt my leg'. He would, however, never say shut up!

I swear in front of my kids but not at them. They need to learn that there's kids language and adult words.

So, one rule for the 'Little Woman' who should never swear & another for 'The Man of the House' who, of course can swear.

I bet he tries to be a controlling dick head in other ways too.

Your children are old enough to know your rules around them swearing. Do as you please & tell him to fuck off when he tries to control you.