Who do you hope to avoid when out and about

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...to ask

How many people do you dread to see when out and about. Or feel awkward seeing. Whether it's an ex, neighbour, someone at school. Someone at work.

Most people!

People from school or ex colleagues.

An ex colleague (from 12 years ago) who asks me 'where ya working?' every fucking time I see her. I have worked at the same place now since I left that place, and she has asked me about 50-60 times in 12 years; I shit U not. Like every time I see her - 4-5 x a year.

A woman who lives 2 streets from me who walks her dog 5 times a day, and when I see her she keeps me talking 10-15 minutes and she talks bollocks. I have never seen her husband - or seen them together, and she is super nosey.

A couple (the woman moreso,) who zoned in on me and DH when they moved here 4 years ago. They kept asking us 2 or 3 times a week, to come around for a meal, and in the end, we gave up and went. And they have asked a dozen times when they can come to ours. We hide behind the couch when we see them coming up the road.

That's 3. There are more.

Whatsername17

My cousin and his wife. We used to be really good friends but over the last few years we have come to realise they were just using us. My husband employed my cousin and we helped them a lot, they were living with my aunt and uncle so they came to our house to get out the way quite a bit.
We gave them furniture when they moved house, asked them to come on two holidays abroad with us, we booked the villa and they only had to pay for flights, when shopping cousin would ask if I would pay for somethings as he was short and I never asked for the money back.
Now they both have good jobs and a big house we are no longer good enough for them. It was a gradual cut out but when we sent Christmas presents and we did not even get a Christmas Card from them I knew that was that.
The thing that really gets me mad though is that have told my aunt and uncle and other relatives it is us that have cut them out.
My nana is in poor health at the moment and the silver lining I will hang on to when she dies is after the funeral I will never have to see them again. If I do see them when out and about I will turn and walk the other way

I work in a school I live close to. I sometimes dread bumping into parents
Only because I want to buy booze etc without fear of being judged!
Earlier, after work, I popped to the polling station and then to the Sainsbury's local and bumped into 10 people I know!
Generally I love living near friends and family, really appreciate my amazing support network, but on rare occasions, I want to be really unsociable and hide from everyone!

Ooh I wish I would avoid the Asian 'Aunties' from our local community. I grew up in a small, segregated town. My family were involved in the community but we lived in a non Asian area. I don't know these aunties but they seem to know me...I am Asian, DH is white...A simple shopping trip to Tesco is like an Attenborough documentary.
'Here we have the lesser spotted multiracial couple, look how the male carries the pints of milk to the trolley...leaving the female to hunt for cheese...Here we see them again smiling at each other, let's keep watching them'
At 8months pregnant I was asked by a young Aunty "what are you doing here then?' Erm, I am in Tesco, mid afternoon on a Thursday, in the baby aisle, with my husband...what do you think I am doing? The little smirk and not at DH was not unnoticed- If I was carrying on anything elicit...it'd not be in Tesco baby food aisle! Just want to say to them, he is my husband, stop the freak show behaviour!
DH is a bit more used to it now but it is just uncomfortable!
Down South nobody batted an eyelid! Small town mentality I guess!

Sorry for the rant...I do stop and chat with families I have helped at work, I enjoy seeing how they are getting on. There are good things like that about the small communities...I think I am just being unreasonable!

Apologies OP, as you were!

Everyone! I'm an extroverted introvert and although people think I'm the life and soul I find people exhausting! Spend all my time hoping to avoid mums I know on the school run or people I know in supermarket or town. When I do see people I have no choice but to put in a tiring cheerful show - it's rediculous!

Our friend who lives around the corner.

I've just had a mc, would have been due mid-Oct. She is pregnant and due mid-Oct. I am happy for her, but very sad for me.

Ancient

I avoid my MIL and SIL when not with DH. Or I fear what I will say or do. They're both such utterly horrible people and tend to reduce me to tears when I see them anyway.

My auntie. She's an alcoholic and a really nasty drunk 👎🏻

I see my DP's ex quite a lot, we stop and have a natter about the kids (she has kids with someone else not my DP) and I see my ex's sister loads. We just wave or say hello though.

Anyone with poor personal hygiene [shudders]

Everyone.
I have anxiety and depression so constantly feel like shit and want to hide

I'm lazy and generally tend to look like a sack of shit on a day to day basis, so everyone I know really!

I usually wear my IPOD/sunglasses so I don't have to converse and still seem reasonable not antisocial. It's not to be mean but I just don't have much left in the tank most days between juggling work and the regime involved in Ds' longterm health condition. Chances are I've had 4 hours sleep on an airbed on his bedroom floor if he's having a rough patch and can't manage forced jovialty and I also don't want to be a drainer to others. I would never ignore anyone though who spoke to me.

I do actively avoid my self-absorbed in-laws visiting and try to be out as they are incapabable of talking about anything other than themselves/their daughter/their other grandson with little concern for DS, which grates a little. Maybe that's unfair but there's nowt like tiredness to make you choose how wisely you spend your time.

Ancient

BeeThirtythree hilarious! I am White and husband Asian and it is totally a David Attenborough situation with the Aunties!!! It happened to us whether living in small town or large city... they are everywhere!! It gets worse when you have kids Thanks for giving me a laugh

Fellow dogwalker who talks way too much. You don't get a word in edgeways and she repeats herself several times in the same conversation. I don't like to be rude so I try and avoid her.

I have bumped into my ex twice in the last year - he lives less than a mile away.

I saw him once when I was all dolled up and gorgeous (going to a wedding) and another time he was having an argument with his girlfriend.

Just kidding... inevitably I saw him when I was in a huge panic buying worm medicine for DC and another time when DD1 was having a huge tantrum over her balloon being the wrong colour in McDonalds Both times he must've been on the way back from work as he was in an expensive looking suit and I was in a faded unflattering nursing dress... the same one both times, for shame!

Anyone who would expect me to stop and speak to them.

There’s a scale of dread.