AIBU to stick to penalty?
NoodleBrain · 08/06/2017 12:38
this morning my dd(8) told a fib and maintained this stance for about 10 minutes despite it getting her younger sister into trouble, and even on challenging her to answer honestly, she didn't. she eventually caved when I said they'd both have to have some sort of penalty as one of them wasn't telling the truth...what she was fibbing about was tiny and I would have had a word and then let it go, but I just can't bare fibs so banned her from a club visit this evening...she is ordinarily incredibly good - am I being too harsh? TIA
scottishdiem · 08/06/2017 12:45
Is there a difference between being good at and really liking?
I used to do activities that were fun and would have been sad to miss but there were others that I would have happily sat out.
Does she get pocket money - maybe deduct some of that in future?
Lies arent helpful so need to be punished when caught.
tiggerbounce77 · 08/06/2017 13:00
Maybe a bit of a harsh punishment but you have told her already that she can't go, by allowing her to go she make think that you are a push over. I would potentially wait until she is home and discuss with her what she has done. If you do decide to let her go then she needs to clearly understand that next time she would miss out and there would be no way of her redeeming herself
Goldenbear · 08/06/2017 13:12
Ordinarily, do you have to do anything when she is at the club? As she has had the day to dwell on it, you could tell her that she will be allowed to go after all as it is an inconvenience to yourself and you have to do 'x' - write an email, go and vote etc. Something official that she doesn't quite get but is 'true' otherwise you'd be a hypocrite. Then remind her that fibbing is not on as you trust her implicitely like you hope she does you. Or something similar. This way everything is covered.
Allthebestnamesareused · 08/06/2017 20:24
I am another one who thinks you have to go through with threatened punishment or dd will see you don't go through with consequences.
She will also think twice about fibbing or lying again. Next time don't chose a punishment as a knee jerk reaction but a more proportionate one but don't back down.
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