To think this isn't normal?

[JuicyStrawberry]

Grandparents giving a kiss/cuddle to grandchildren in the order oldest to youngest . Is that normal?
Imagine the youngest wants a cuddle and I push him away because the rule is the oldest has one first. So nasty!

I don't find it normal. My brother always pushed me out of the way. I'm not projecting as it would be a thread in itself how he treated me. It was a silly thing for your dad to say and I wouldn't let that rule actually stick but I don't force dd to kiss either.

So your Dad brought your children to your house, bought them a chocolate treat each, and asked for a kiss? And agreed with your eldest child's suggestion of age order? Yeah he sounds awful.

And as for saying they could open their chocolate after a kiss, could he have just wanted a pre-chocolatey-dribble/fingers kiss? Doesn't sound too sinister to me. Obvs I don't know your Dad, but I would have assumed the whole thing was entirely innocent, and your Dad was being a kind and thoughtful grandparent.

You're right bigyellow. I feel really bad now. And your reasoning behind the kiss before chocolate is actually a pretty good one you know.

Angela oh a lot of people are so used to it they find it dusturbing to contemplate or they just don't like the implications.

I do think that Big yellow is right. There is a massive difference between bribing a child for a kiss with chocolate and asking that the kiss which they want/expect to give on parting is non-sticky.