DP's foot in mouth disease

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nctime · 07/06/2017 20:30

My DP is pretty rude tactless at times. His latest charm offensive was me sending him a link to an event in september, suggesting we go. We both commented that it was a long time away and I joked 'do you think we'll still be together my then? (Crying laughing emoji)'. He said 'hmm not sure maybe' so I asked 'why maybe?' And he said 'maybe isn't no'. No emojis, winks or whatever.

I've got angry and ignored him for tonight (after telling him it's a dick move when he's just ask me to commit to a six month tenancy with him). He's apologised and said he was playing as 'I thought that's what we do'. AIBU to be fucking raging annoyed?

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bigchris · 07/06/2017 20:34

How old are you both?

babybubblescomingsoon · 07/06/2017 20:36

It's difficult because you made the joke first, so can't be really annoyed that he played the game. Just speak to him and sort it out.

PeppaPigTastesLikeBacon · 07/06/2017 20:36

YABU. Are you 5?

Ecureuil · 07/06/2017 20:37

So he was joking in the same way as you, he just didn't use 'emojis' to demonstrate he was joking?
You started the 'joke' around not being together. He continued it. I'm not sure why you're so angry?

Calvinlookingforhobbs · 07/06/2017 20:37

YABU. You made the joke first!

Ecureuil · 07/06/2017 20:37

In answer to your question, yes YABU

BestZebbie · 07/06/2017 20:41

YABU - You were playing by making that joke, so the correct thing for him to do was play along in reply.
If you were actually seriously questioning your relationship and are gutted because you feel that his reply was seriously meant, that was not the way to indicate that.
Also, it would be very tiresome living with a partner with that level of insecurity, such that an attempt to create future plans was taken as a possible intention to break up! Ideally you don't want to become that person.

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nctime · 07/06/2017 20:45

Interesting. That's what aibu is for I guess . Not to drip feed but 90% of the time he's really affecionate and I expected him to say something like 'I bloody hope so if we're going to be living together!' It has concerned me that we're moving in together too soon (it's for convenience - neither of us has an ideal living situation and the opportunity came up, so probably two bedrooms just in case!). Guess my stress about that got the better of me. Thanks all

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