to ask for your Top Tips to INSPIRE ME?

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I feel like I have lost all motivation for everything I used to love. I am not really taking good care of myself - eating unhealthy, late nights, no exercising - as have no motivation and am just not interested in anything. I am putting on weight and feeling shitty.

I'm not depressed as such; just sort of bored - life ennui.

Has anyone got any tips or advice to inspire me - either to find something new and non-boring to inspire me OR to buck me up out of my not looking after myself phase?

I am so sorry I have posted on the wrong thread, how do I remove!

Greatest first response ever- hope it helped op

I can't stop laughing at that first post

Ha! Has that inspired you OP?

So sorry op! For laughing...but that's my reccomendation anyway!

Get on Netflix and watch some really funny stuff...reruns of things you know make you laugh or new stuff. Do it daily...that's just the start though.

The other thing is to begin to drink more water. That will fill you up AND make you feel more energetic.

And one more...go to a gallery or museum a week. If you run out then visit historical places.

For anyone wondering what the first post was...it was a dismal and scary list of Sharia laws which began with cutting hands off.

For anyone wondering what the first post was...it was a dismal and scary list of Sharia laws which began with cutting hands off.

I'm sorry I missed it!

Thanks Mrs Over The Road

I am so so sorry! I was posting on another thread and had 2 windows open! My goodness you must have got a shock!!!

To answer your question, I am in the same boat and I am trying to tackle one thing at a time, so for example I know if I have a good food day, I am more inspired to go to the gym that day.

I have 105 days til my holidays and I am breaking it into sections for:

Lose some weight
Get fitter
Buy a few new items of clothing to help me feel good
top biting nails (I am 42 not 6)
Save money in a little pot instead on spending

Do you think you could do the same? Kind of like a vision board with what you want to achieve and by when!!!

And again I am so so sorry!!!

You may not be depressed as such but as your mood is low perhaps try taking some iron (energy) and vit d (boosts mood).

Before trying to do stuff you 'must' do (apart from daily essentials) do stuff you enjoy but isn't too taxing, eg comedy, music from teens something upbeat (wham! Wake me up before you go go or club Tropicana would be my choices)
Talk to a funny friend on the phone (hearing a cheerful voice helps), eat something nice (sod the diet for now). Buy yourself something fun, a new book or cheap top or lippy.

I'm watching with interest because I'm exactly the same. I'm bored and unmotivated. Wasting my days with crap tv and eating. I'm applying for jobs after many years of sahm and a bit of working from home, but I'm just not getting anywhere. I'm stuck for ways to fill my days really.

Thanks Peggy. I know I need to do these things. I know I need to lose weight, I know I need to get fitter and I know I need to go to bed before 2am.

My problem is that although part of me knows I need to do this (and urgently soon) the controlling main part of me finds it more immediately soothing and gratifying to eat a delicious high fat meal like loaded potato skins with mounds of sour cream, collapse onto the sofa with a great bottle of wine and slowly quaff while watching crap TV until 1am. As a result of which I feel fat, shitty and tired in the morning and do the same thing all over again.

How do I buck myself up out of this/find inspiration for motivation and interest in anything when the controlling part of me is mired in ennui and self-soothing sloth?

It's a circle of self-loathing and I don't really have interest in anything at all.

Gosh, it's easily done, that spiral of drinking and eating and late nights and on and on and on. I think earlier nights are really helpful, and drinking less, if I do both those things I'm happier and feel better. I also try to do all the things I have to do early on in the day so then I don't feel as guilty for sitting down watching crap telly.

OP - you had me at baked potato and sour cream...you have just chosen tonight's dinner :)

I echo the music, I feel totally different after blasting some good tunes (and dancing round my kitchen)

Is there anything you really really enjoy doing and haven't done in a while, but if you did once you would be back in the swing?

Mine is swimming, at the moment I can't muster up the energy, so I have asked a friend to come with me at the weekend. Once I have been once I know I will remember how much I enjoy it, have my mojo back and will go alone.

I have this too op. I just can't get excited about a damn thing. I think its a vicious circle, doing nothing makes you nothing iyswim. I feel better on the days I force myself to do stuff.

I was like this and my trick was listing tiny tiny achievable goals. I go a to-do list app on my phone, customised it in pretty colours (lame I know but it honestly helped) and listed all the tiny little things that would cheer me up that day. Some things were huge, like organising debt management. So I broke that up into "make a step change login", " make a list of outgoings " etc.
Then I had other more "frivolous" things such as "walk in the park for an hour today" "get my ears pierced again" "throw out old makeup".
The sense of achievement when I ticked each thing off was awesome. I know it all sounds a bit superficial but I still feel much more " on track" and motivated iyswim.
Good luck OP

TDIOPLynne is spot on - Charting little victories really helps.. - and generally speaking moving a little more and eating a little less will also help -

Don't try and do too much too soon - to avoid minor setbacks - I speak from personal experience - but
you'll have to trust us for now - good luck

This is going to sound cheesy but each day start with a gratitude list, maybe that we don't live under sharia law being a good start. Write a to do list the night before, can include the most mundane things such as wash dishes ect for you to tick off. Is there any volunteer work or causes youd be interested in? It'll take something really exciting and fun to pull you out of stupor but being your own cheerleaders a good start.

Why don't you have a nice healthy night in to start off with?

Get some pampering stuff and something nice (non-alcoholic) to drink and a really delicious easy healthy meal - go to M&S for the balanced for you range or something if you don't feel up to making it. Chop up some veg sticks and hummus for snacks.

Then have a nice long bath, do your nails, wash your hair, have a proper scrub so you're feeling really clean and good about yourself. Put some music on instead of the tv. Read a book or a magazine that you like.

Then the next day take yourself out for a walk somewhere, anywhere, and try to notice nice things you see, don't just walk aimlessly.

Think about small things that make you happy (yoga? music? dancing? talking to people? wearing a certain item of clothing?) and incorporate those things into your day wherever you can. That doesn't have to be a yoga class, for example, but you could do five minutes on a couple of poses and straight away you'll feel like you've done something.

Pay attention to your breathing and your inner monologue, speak to yourself only as you would to a good friend. When you hear yourself say something negative to yourself, correct it.

OP

Are you able to join a gym ie. no physical impediment to prevent you doing so? I too am a natural born, lazy and greedy slob who gets overweight and depressed if left to my own devices. Exercise is the only thing that prevents me from becoming that person; it's not only good for weight loss/fitness but mental wellbeing too.

If you think you're not the kind of person who'd like using a gym there are other forms of exercise that you'd benefit from eg. yoga and pilates.

That is so funny about the first reply! Another in the same boat-I was doing slimming world & then dh started exercising & losing lots of weight & it's made me fed up for some reason.

I found trying to do 10k steps helpful & just getting out in the air! Small achievable steps

Well if a bit of Sharia law won't terrorise motivate you, nothing will!

TheyDoItOnPurposeLynne
I was like this and my trick was listing tiny tiny achievable goals.

This sounds great.

Thanks for your replies.

ExPres also nice idea. I don't have time this week but will schedule that in.

Mulch
This is going to sound cheesy but each day start with a gratitude list, maybe that we don't live under sharia law being a good start.

ROFL!

BigTap I need a stern talking to!