To ask the best "sorry not sorry" you have gotten

[Justkeepleft]

MIL just sent a dozy, with a side helping of judgement.
Sorry I left unexpectedly, but I didn't like you child's behaviour so decided to leave to avoid a disagreement.

I am so glad she wanted to aviod a disagreement 😖. I am trying to calm down before I even mention it to DH.

So what are your crappy sorry not sorry moments

Note:dd wasn't acting too dadly considering HER son wasn't parenting dd.

My mum.

'I'm sorry you think I made you miserable all through your childhood but you can't blame me that you turned out to be so sensitive. I did tell you you needed to toughen up a bit. I got it wrong with you but at least it made me try a bit harder with your brother so I'm not sorry I had you to practice on'

These are shockers. for you both.

'Miss, I'm sorry for hitting you, but I wouldn't have done it if you didn't stop me hitting student name'...

Ah man gotta love a nonpology.

"I'm sorry your mum's dying but you're really hard to work with at the moment, you're always so miserable"

I live in the US and I have never had a genuine apology here for bad service. It's all 'I'm sorry you FEEL...' . Fuck off. Don't you dare tell me how I feel! You're either sorry or not. I'd almost prefer you not bothering than the half hearted you're in the wrong nonpology!

From my narc mother:

Oh I'm sorry the relationship has ended but really what do you expect, you're unloveable because you don't want to be loved by me anyone

I once hit my brother with a frying pan...many, many years ago. We were washing up after tea and he had annoyed me for some reason I no longer remember and when told to say 'sorry' for hitting him I said 'sorry for not hitting you harder'.

We both laugh about it and neither of us has any idea what set it off...he is convinced he was perfect, but as my younger brother I KNOW it was his fault!!

I was once called a "bloody stupid cow" amongst other offensive remarks by a local politician by accident (they hit reply all not realising I was in the email chain). I had sent an email asking about something quite relevant that they clearly didn't want to deal with.

After my formal complaint they were told to apologise. The apology when it finally came was......
"I'm sorry if you were offended by my email but you weren't supposed to read it"

Justkeep, you should reply. "Thank you for acknowledging your rudeness and apologising. :-)."

'Sorry if I upset you but it's all water under the bridge.'

Ah, my father. I pretty much gave up on him at that point.

My paternal grandfather died when I was 11, it was the first time anyone I knew personally had died.
That night I was staying at maternal Nan's overnight and she thought she was being nice when she said 'I'm sorry to hear about your Grandad Francis, but he really was very old and blind so much use being around these days anyway'

Some of these are so horrid. Non apologies suck.
Big hugs to you all.
I am calmer now and might just leave it hang, there is no tactful way to say"i refuse to parent how you did and destroy any future relationship with my strong willed daughter".
She can bring it up with dh.
I am sorry you all have experienced such dreadful people.