I know this has cropped up in other threads recently so sorry to repeat but, Jesus fucking Christ, why can't the bastard just stop doing things that make me dream of running away in the distance and never looking back?
I'll preface this with saying he's not lazy. He does hard, mostly manual labour work for 6 days a week. And I'm lucky that I get to stay home with ds.
But, this morning alone- finished a jar of peanut butter and started a new one, just put the old one back in the cupboard.
Gets a toilet roll out of the package, leaves wrapper on the floor and sits toilet roll on the sink.
Walks past his dirty laundry on the floor at least ten times and when I ask him to pick it up I'm nagging.
Ds does a pee in his potty and he manages to walk past for over an hour without getting rid of it (I just left it to see if he'd actually do it but in the end I did.)
Makes coffee and spills sugar and milk all over the counter and just leaves it.
Leaves every cupboard or drawer he touches wide open.
Refills the dogs water (as asked) and sees the bowl is manky but doesn't bother to wash it.
If I ask he to do something he'll happily do it but I shouldn't have to ask every little simple fucking thing. And it's always done in such a half assed way!
I tell him I find it all disrespectful and he says he doesn't see the mess, I do think he can't actually think about more than one thing at once.
So I'm either tidying up after him which makes me rage or nagging which is horrible for everyone.
How does everyone else cope with partners that having differing levels or tidiness/cleanliness? I also suffer from OCD at times and then it all turns in to a vicious cycle. He blames my OCD for my occasional melt downs but he is a messy bastard.
I love him but honestly think if I'd seen this side of him before we married I'd have thought twice. 