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I have been married for 10years. Non of that 10 years (and at least third of my relationship with him before marriage) has been particularly fulfilling and I am frankly bored to tears!
Regardless of that we have two young children and just as the saying goes, it hasn't made anything better!
We argue in front of the children..about how to parent and he is very tense when we are all together. As soon as they are in bed it's all light and fluffy like we haven't spent the day arguing! I dread days out as a family as I find it stressful with him.
He has always been singular in his actions. He never consulted me about annual leave, I would find out the day/week he was off. No discussion or thought that as a couple we would take annual leave together.
He doesn't allow me to know passwords etc, I don't know what his financial situation is really like.
He has no idea how to appropriately dress/feed the kids - they are 3&6 and he les them go out in tights and a T-shirt, unbrushed hair, or just puts the cloths I have set out over the top of pj's etc even in hot weather so they are overheating - but judges other children on their state of dress. He then says well I don't know anything about fashion??
That's just a snapshot, but his behaviour/input in build up to the wedding and the day was upsetting and I just haven't gotten past it. I resent him and bored and dong think it's a healthy relationship for our children to model.
So, although the impact in the kids will be awful (one has asd and emotional difficulties) aibu to just leave?
I don't believe either of us are happy.