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AIBU?

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Aibu to think the neighbour is being completely unreasonable?

69 replies

Whitlandcarm · 05/06/2017 21:55

I have lived here for 50 years and am one of few original families on a quiet cul de sac of 3-6 bedroom detached houses in a professional suburb. Next door moved in around 5 years ago into the smallest house. A couple in their 40s, seemed friendly enough.

Our garden is higher than theirs, we had a shed type thing with glass windows for light, which faced their house. And so from their kitchen window the top of the shed used for storage is partially visible over the fence. They didn't like the idea of us looking into their garden so suggested we put a hedge row in, which we did. Not that I'm often inclined to sit with the lawn mowerConfused

An elderly neighbour who is recently widowed in her late 80s had a garden light on 9-10pm when she was entertaining on the patio. The neighbour was sent a letter informing her not to do so as the light was flowing into an upstairs bedroom- which is not used.

When my husband leaves for work, I like to stand in my front garden in pyjamas and gown to wave him off. Not a problem, on my property and covered up, albeit in nightwear.

Neighbour came round to me to inform and reuqest that I don't go outside into the garden in my nightwear as he finds it embarassing. Confused I would never be embarassed to see a granny in dressing gown outside her own front door.

During the summer last, the grandchildren were running around topless having a water fight. We were informed that they could see our grandchildren half naked.

Am I being unreasonable in my fairly normal behaviour?Blush

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Palace2 · 05/06/2017 21:57

Wow! Hope you told her where to go!

PurpleWithRed · 05/06/2017 22:00

They are barking mad.

Lostinaseaofbubbles · 05/06/2017 22:01

no, you're not being unreasonable.

Maybe install a light for your lawnmower and wave DH off wearing lingerie...

MissJC · 05/06/2017 22:01

Tell them to fuck right off if you will excuse my French! God that's given me the rage on your behalf. If you want to stand in your garden in your Jammies then you do exactly that and sod to the cheeky buggers. Pfffftt.

YANBU!!

wheresthel1ght · 05/06/2017 22:01

Ffs your neighbours need to get a life!

I would start ignoring them

mineofuselessinformation · 05/06/2017 22:02

Have a good laugh first, then go with my stock response - 'if you think I've done anything wrong, report me'.
You know YANBU, don't you?

Holland00 · 05/06/2017 22:02

They sound like a nightmare! They need to leave in a rural property with the nearest neighbour 10 miles away

honeyroar · 05/06/2017 22:03

Send them a letter back suggesting they move to a house with no near neighbours?

Revenant · 05/06/2017 22:03

I would be tempted to either give a death stare or drill down a bit into exactly what he finds offensive about your clothes (I'm presuming not see through or anything ) or playing children? Or maybe just go with a simple "mind yer own bloody business"

Trooperslane · 05/06/2017 22:03

someone is being unreasonable vvv but it isn't you

happypoobum · 05/06/2017 22:05

Next time it's sunny go out and wave him off in a bikini Grin

YANBU - they are cheeky fuckers. Ignore them, or give them a Gallic shrug and turn smartly on your heel if they complain again.

MaryJObliged · 05/06/2017 22:05

Can you wave him off in this tomorrow morning?

HildaOg · 05/06/2017 22:05

Laugh in their face and tell them that they're utter lunatics. Smirk everytime you see them after that.

Theresnonamesleft · 05/06/2017 22:05

Every time they come knocking to complain tell them you find their presence embarrassing. If hey don't like it they can move.
I would also take the stuff of that shed as well. It was there before the house went on the market. When they went to view it would have been clearly visible. So tough shit.
Suggest they get curtains to protect themselves from lights, windows and children.

Silverthorn · 05/06/2017 22:05

Send them a polite letter asking them not to look toward your property as it is embarrassing you. 😂

jamrock · 05/06/2017 22:07

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wowfudge · 05/06/2017 22:07

Just ignore them. They are clearly people who are looking for something to complain about. The more you try to appease them, the more extreme their demands will become - and have become.

Don't change your habits and so on. Next time they complain about something they have seen which they dislike, advise them to look away if it offends them.

Theresnonamesleft · 05/06/2017 22:07

Oh and buy something like this

Reow · 05/06/2017 22:09

Go out to wave him off in your dressing gown with a strap on poking out Wink

Theresnonamesleft · 05/06/2017 22:09

Try again.
To wear around the garden. Could buy his and hers. Wave hubby off to work in the morning. Could have lots of fun.
There's loads of cheap naughty costumes
On eBay. Assuming
You don't have this stuff anyway

FrancisCrawford · 05/06/2017 22:11

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Amoamasamat · 05/06/2017 22:13

Tell them that voyeurism is a crime in the UK. They have admitted they have been watching your semi naked grandchildren. They have admitted to watching you in your nightwear. On both occasions you were in your own home and you had the right to expect privacy.

Tell them you will call the police if you see them watching you again.

DoomGloomAndKaboom · 05/06/2017 22:14

Firstly, I think it doesn't matter who's been there longest etc. However....

Those forty year olds are from the forties, right? What a pair of prissy knickerses! Half naked children and a patio light on at 10pm, once? Bloody hell. I bet they jump at small noises and read the daily fail and believe it.

Get one of those aprons of a naked woman and wear that as you wave your husband off. Say it's to cover your nightwear, so the poor snowflake neighbour doesn't feel embarrassed.

Also ask why the feck the neighbours were staring at your grandchildren.

expatinscotland · 05/06/2017 22:14

Learn the art of shrugging at them. Or saying just, 'No,' to their batshitness.

Ethylred · 05/06/2017 22:14

Ask your neighbour what he would like you to wear.

Then report back.