Lived here 7 years in normal working professional family type neighborhood. Family to one side, older couple, two adult sons still at home. Had only ever spoken to me except very briefly if they were out cutting grass. Quite clear that's all that they wanted. Fine, whatever... I did try to be a bit friendly the first couple years here. One year as I took a baking course and had some extra cakes which I did bring some over to them. I suppose it could have been considered 'aggressive baking' but it was only about 3 cakes. Never really seen the wife as she does not like to come outside but did work as a teacher. I had some health issues last year and had to call the ambulance a couple times and no one came over to see if things were ok (none of my neighbors did, not just next door) They know my husband works away during the week as I have told them when we first moved here. I was a bit disappointed no one came to see if my kids needed help as I had to go the hospital and leave them on their own (they are around 10-13 years). One time was in the middle of Saturday and another a mid-week evening, so people would have noticed a noisy ambulance in front of my house, I would have thought, but maybe somehow they didn't...
So all of that was the background....Now late last year my next door neighbour (the husband) had a bad stroke and now lives incapacitated at home. I didn't take any interest other than to say 'hope your father is okay' to one of the son's as he cut the grass. I figured they all just want privacy. Recently, for the first time in seven years the wife was outside when I was gardening and said she noticed me 'piddling about' (I was actually doing heavy work) and would I like 'to come over for tea or coffee sometime?' She was saying how awful a time she was having since needing to retire one year early and look after an invalid. I said oh, okay.
AIBU to just about ignore my neighbor's sudden friendliness? After seven years of them all being stand-offish I had completely lost interest...