Fall out with friend? Who is in the wrong?

[Lookforthelight]

I've been feeling a bit used by a friend lately.

I was feeling a bit down yesterday and she text me and asked what I was doing.

I had things to do and do I told her and she asked if I was free later and I replied that I wasn't sure.

She then text to say she needed a lift to go pick something up. I was

I don't mind doing a favour, but she expected me to drive the half an hour to hers, then drive her to wherever she wanted to go and then drop her back off.

This is not the first time she's expected me to drop what I was doing to drive to hers to give her something.

She's never in our whole friendship offered me petrol money.

I said so you only want to see me if I can give you a lift?

Whichever she proceeded to go crazy at me.

She is.

In this situation I'd much prefer a friend to just straight out ask for the favour than pretend they want to see me.

If she had just asked for a lift at x time straight off you might have been able to accommodate her, but as it was she just pissed you off and I don't blame you for getting annoyed.

She isn't a friend, she's a user

Cut her loose

Of course she went crazy at you. It's the only weapon she has to deflect from the ugly truth of it.

She's hoping to make you feel unreasonable to have even allowed that thought into your head. Bollocks to that.

I wouldn't respond to any messages or calls for a while frankly.
If she wants to be your friend she can apologise at least and make an effort to see you.
How rude....you don't need people on your life that treat you like that.

YANBU - ditch her!

Just say no.

Send her a bus timetable

She reacted that way because you were right, she only wanted a lift.
Sorry to hear this, I hate crap friends.

Just say no. Is a full sentence in its own right!

What did she say in her response to you?

This made me laugh. A friend of DD's has just passed her driving test and is now giving another girl who lives in the next road a lift to school, and is charging her petrol money despite doing the journey anyway. And if she drives anywhere at all, she charges all her passengers petrol money.

Maybe you should channel some of her attitude.

Good on you, she needed that. Just cut her dead and move on. Very cheeky and entitled.

You are the true friend, she is the user and abuser, so lose her.💐

user good on your DD's friend. Start as you mean to go on and all that.

It's hard because we work together and previously she has been a good friend. It's just starting to creep up that I'm being used.

Her response was lots of swearing and saying forget it etc

Her response says it all.

I'm sorry it's difficult because you work together, but she really isn't a friend. Friends don't react like that.

You're being fucked over by her.
Ditch.

Maybe she wanted a lift AND wanted to see you?

Okay read your post back and imagine you're reading someone else's thread. Who would you say was in the wrong. Her I bet.
Oh and she went crazy on you because you called her out on her behavior.

A real friend would have been apologetic when you said that, not gone off on one. They might have said sorry for making you feel like you were being taken for granted, and might have said they would come over to discuss it. But no. Because this is not a friend.

Oh, and I meant to add before I posted that a 'good friend' wouldn't expect you to be at their beck and call. Looking back, I think you'll find that the times in the past when she has been a 'good friend' were times when it suited her to be so. She always had her eyes on being the boss of you like this. She knew you wouldn't be a pushover without at least the initial pretence of friendship.