AIBU to think that everyone should just get a grip and stop whining?

[2010Aussie]

I don't know anyone directly affected by either the Manchester bomb or the latest terrorist incident in London, but I can't get either event out of my mind. I'm thinking particularly today of the parents of Eilidh MacLeod who will be burying their child and the many other parents who will be facing that devastating task in the days to come.

Yes, we have to get on with our own lives but these incidents have given me perspective. I am getting increasingly fed up with people whining about trivial things - "Someone has parked in MY space outside my house" or "the girl on the checkout was rude to me".

Why don't we just count our blessings, hug our children and be thankful that we are still all in one piece?

But where do you draw the line?

Relatively, everything is less serious that a terrorist attack.
Being in a DV relationship.
Being cheated on.
Having an SN child.
Being upset a friendship is ending.
Losing your job.
Having a toxic mother.
Being unhappily single.
Being unhappily married.

You make a good point about tragedies like this waking us up to the benefit of not stressing over very minor, petty things. But there is no point in playing the pity olympics since there's always someone who has it worse. If you're going down that route you may as well point out those who lost loved ones still have their own health and wealth and hey it's not like they're begging in a ditch somewhere.

oh dear, and I was just planning to have an AIBU about the fact that the wind is blowing a bloody hoolie despite gorgeous sunshine and its actually freezing and its JUNE ffs.... I am trivial indeed.

But if we don't moan about the weather/Roger from next door/parking/late trains/people who eat noisily/barbecue smoke/Cadbury chocolate being shit what will we talk about?

So OP, when can we start moaning again about trivial things?

The thing is, that's just now life works. Where would it end? who decides what you can/can't be sad about?
My brother died in tragic circumstances in his 20's. I still moan that DH hasn't done the washing up, my mum still moans that someone at her work isn't pulling their weight, my dad still moans about the constant repairs his house needs. Should we all be spending the rest of our lives being zen and grateful?

YABU. It's a false equivalence - a logical fallacy. Like saying that because people are starving in third world countries, our country's reliance on food banks isn't as serious. People are allowed to be angry/upset/annoyed about one thing without undermining the tragedy of another.

I moan about the small things to keep my mind away from the serious stuff in my life. You have no idea what goes on in people's lives. The person moaning about parking could be grieving, because their life goes on and having a rant maybe a welcome 5 second break from their reality.

I understand what you're saying OP. We should count our blessings.
However life goes on. I lost a brother when he was in his 30's and yes trivialities don't count as much as they did. Doesn't stop me being a moaning minie at times.

If there's one thing I've learnt on MN in the past few days, it's that a lot of people feel inexplicably authorised to tell others how they should feel.

You're not sad enough.
You're too sad - stop being dramatic.
You're somehow the wrong kind of sad. It seems fake.
Don't be so bloody scared.
Why isn't everyone scared?
Let go of your anger.
Wake the fuck up and get angry!
Why aren't you thinking about Syria?
Why are you bringing up Syria?
Why are you just sitting there waiting for the next one?
Why are you running away?
SHARE your feelings. It helps.
SHUT UP about your feelings. It's too much.

Please, self-appointed Emotions Police: tell me exactly how I should react, and what the correct emotions are, and how every moment is precious... except for trivial shit, even though having a good old whinge is cathartic, enjoyable, and sometimes sparks a good discussion. But that's the wrong kind of precious moment. Glad to have a definitive ruling.

YABU
it would take WW3 (maybe) to stop having minor shit annoy me, its just part of being human , and its not always a bad thing.
that bitch hogs all the space in the bomb shelter, and why does she bring stinky sandwiches

yin/yang and all that