To not want to help family out?

[Lookforthelight]

I moved recently and ended up living close to my elderly aunt.

Every family occasion I'm expected to collect her and then drive her home.

The issue I have is that I'm constantly insulted by her the entire journey. I rang her to apologise that I would be 15 minutes late picking her up because I was still at the hairdressers.

I walked in and she said I thought you went to the hairdressers? ... wow thanks, gave me a confidence boost that did.

She asked what time I got up (9am) which apparently is horribly late and I'll never be able to sleep that evening. I got up at 5:30 every week day ffs!

She asked me if I had a tv because she can't imagine what I do with my evenings being single.

I got quizzed on my mortgage repayments.

The hairdressers I went to was wrong because it was too far away ... 15 minutes in the car.

It's just constant that my choices are wrong etc.

I'm doing her a favour! I don't expect her to bow down and be eternally grateful but I do expect her to be bloody polite to me.

I've told my mum I'm refusing to collect her anymore and was told that I'm being unreasonable. Am I?

She sounds delightful YANBU to refuse to pick her up I wouldn't be going out of my way to help her out if she spoke to me like that.

Nope, being old is not excuse to be rude, just tell her "one more insult Mary and you can zimmer yourself to the party", if she does insult you again just say "right, you were warned, you can make your own way there/home"

No you are not. But before stopping the pick ups and drop offs, have you actually told her she's being rude?
I couldn't hold my tongue that long.
Next rude comment, "thats a bit rude Auntie"
Nosy question "thanks for asking but I'm not talking about my finances/medical condition/etc"
Stop telling her stuff.
She probably still sees you as a little kid who needs to be told what to do.

Well I did snap at the hairdresser comment, along the lines of

Yes I have been actually, why what's wrong with it?!

Oh nothing.

Fuck off.

Has she always been like this? If so, challenge her, each time. My Mum was similar, I couldn't change her, but I got her to hold her tongue.

If not, it could be her age and if might be helpful to view it as a disability and ignore it.

Nocabbageinmyeye

Tell her 'stop insulting me please, or I wont do you favours any more.' Give her two strikes and then, sorry, taxi service is cancelled.