To be so angry and consider ending this friendship?

[BeyondTheReasons]

Friend has been with boyfriend 6 years. Cheated on her repeatedly throughout with different women. He cheated on her on holiday but in her words it doesn't count as it was abroad

He's started a new relationship behind her back. Which she now knows.

He smashed her head against a wall. I said that's it, cut contact with him. It's got to be over now and she agreed.

She's now gone back and he's broken her arm. I've said to report him and she completely ignored me.

She had no children with this man, financially she's fine and she had places to stay (friends and family) and yet her excuse for not leaving him is ... because she doesn't want anyone else to have him.

I can't cope anymore. For the last 6 years I've been used to listen to this for hours on end ... I can't do it anymore and she won't even help herself.

If her friends withdraw her situation will be more dangerous and she will be less likely to leave.
All my friends and family stopped bothering with me apart from my step mum who said "you can keep coming here until you eventually decide to leave him" I used to turn up there with ds, she'd feed us and let us stay then I'd go back again with her words echoing in my head.
It was because of her I was finally able to leave when I was ready.

I will always be grateful.

Look up Jane Monkton Smith and her talks on "chronic fear."

She sends me photos of the bruises and then I say seriously report it ... and she ignored it and goes on to a different subject.

I don't understand why she randomly messages me these images but yet won't comment on them.

Can you not turn all the photos over to the police and give rough dates of A&E attendance for broken arm and smashed head? Plus printouts of her texts saying what he's fond. She doesn't just need to be free of him, he should be in jail!

Fond was supposed to say done

I would report the incident to the police and give them them the texts.

YANBU to feel exasperated but it really sounds like she needs a friend more than ever. Try and stay with her

Think of it as stockhold syndrome, he needs reporting by someone else, he sounds like a nasty bastard

There's some research been carried out that compares women in some types of abusive relationships to prisoners of war ie systematically brainwashed and controlled.

What's she's telling you about why she wont leave may be what she believes, or he's got her to believe but it doesn't mean it's true. It'll be much more complex than that.

It's also common for women to tentatively try to tell people about the abuse but not be ready to leave, usually long before they are ready to report to the police.

It sounds incredibly frustrating, but if you're able to leave the door open for her for the future it may help her. If she's not happy to report to anyone, maybe in the future she'd agree to have a chat with a domestic violence worker, even anonymously.