I always get intense crushes at work

[Littlemissaccountant]

Work is my life.

I've friends and family but they don't live near me and in my local area the only people I chat to are my work colleagues. I think for that reason they mean a bit too much to me.

I always find myself getting intense crushes at work. Sometimes they're all consuming. I know it's completely normal to have a crush on a work colleague but I seem to fall in love with a quarter of the office!

While outside of work I'm not interested in ANYONE.

I hide everything well. No one knows (well I hope not). But then I get upset when one of my crushes gets a partner. It's all getting a bit much really.

I live half my life in a fantasy.

Is there anything I can do to try and stop this?

I've taken up volunteering and I'm hoping this way I will make friends outside of work and work will become less important to me. I think I need more to my life.

AIBU to think this is abnormal?

It sounds like you need to meet new people, make friends and start dating. Your world revolves around them because they're the only people in your life.

Agreed hilda although actually I do have some Mum friends and I do visit family and friends in my hometown.

There's something about work that breeds crushes for me.

Interesting...are they people in positions of power or just general people at work?

Usually managers.

Otherwise it's the very physically attractive colleagues.

By "Mum" friends- does that mean that you have children?

I wonder if it's something to do with being unemcumbered with kids when you're at work that's getting you in touch with your mojo?

I love being at work!

Yes I've one child.

If it's managers and you work in a fairly smart environment it's often just perception. Everyone I work with (nearly) is polished and look awesome. I can't imagine them slobbing about in trakkies.