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AIBU to be annoyed? Moving house related

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KinkyAfro · 04/06/2017 13:44

We are moving house this weekend, DP's daughter has just rang to ask if he can help her boyfriend put some decking down on Sunday and he said yes, I'm fuming.

We're going to have so much to do, we've got a 3 bedroom house plus garage to move, unpack and furniture to assemble.

I don't know who I'm more mad at, them for asking this weekend of all weekends or DP for saying yes!

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bluebeck · 04/06/2017 13:48

Well it's fairly clear to me that you should be mad at DP. I would tell him I was going to a friends for the weekend and see how he reacts to that?

BarbarianMum · 04/06/2017 13:51

Um, is this a trick question? You get mad at your "d"p of course.

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KinkyAfro · 04/06/2017 13:53

I'm so mad at DP but I also can't believe she asked, she knows we're moving. We're both going to be exhausted, now he's doing a 200 mile trip to do this, why it can't be moved to the weekend after i don't know. Apparently it absolutely must be done next Sunday

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bluebeck · 04/06/2017 13:57

Seriously I would tell him that the move will be cancelled if he goes.

BarbarianMum · 04/06/2017 13:57

But that's their problem, surely. Why is your dp saying he needs to be involved? Really he's the problem here, he could have (could still) say no.

Bettyspants · 04/06/2017 13:59

That's ridiculous. Tell him you've decided to help out a friend this weekend so you're unable to assist in moving. Or just point out he's being bloody ridiculous and you will cancel the move if he goes.

gamerchick · 04/06/2017 13:59

Tell him of he goes then he takes the kids with him. Putting deckong down with a few beers will be far preferable to unpacking a house, don't let him get away with it.

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KinkyAfro · 04/06/2017 14:06

He feels guilty because he doesn't see her much and she reminded us she took us to the airport last month so we owe her a favour. That's fine, I've no issues with him helping just not this weekend

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bluebeck · 04/06/2017 14:07

Well there's no point in telling us - tell him! He goes and the move is off!

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KinkyAfro · 04/06/2017 14:11

Ive told him I'm pissed off and he's stormed off out

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bluebeck · 04/06/2017 14:21

He has done that because he knows he is in the wrong and he wants you to just shut up and put up.

Ignore him. Can you go out? Cinema/see friends?

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KinkyAfro · 04/06/2017 14:24

I'm going to get dog in the car and take her for a walk and a swim i think. Stuff him

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BarbarianMum · 04/06/2017 14:29

Good, do that. He's being a dick!

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KinkyAfro · 04/06/2017 15:15

He's just rang to say he's told his daughter that he's going to be too busy. Result. Ive told him he's now cooking sunday dinner for being a dick and he agreed. 👍👍👍

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bluebeck · 04/06/2017 15:22

Result! It's worth standing up for yourself -

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