I have a work colleague. I brought my friend along to a work do and my extremely flirty work colleague got chatting to my friend and added her on Facebook.
I'm not keen on him as I think he's a bit of a player. Flirts with anything that moves and loves the attention of the ladies. He tried to flirt with me and when I told him I'm not up for flirting his ego was hurt and His way of dealing with the fact I didn't like him was to tell me how hot other women were constantly, in an attempt to make me jealous. He could also be mean to me. As a result I made sure to avoid him.
Despite all this I do think he loved his girlfriend. He's was just a flirt who loved attention but He had a long term girlfriend. They were together for 5 years and to be fair he always made it clear he had a girlfriend and I don't think he'd have actually cheated. He seemed in love with her but just a bit attention seeking and that's why he flirted with anything that moved.
His long term girlfriend left him after 5 years. I don't know what happened. Suddenly he announced he was single on Facebook and uploaded loads of pics of him with his arms around pretty women. He messaged me to say he was single. I didn't reply. A month later he contacted my friend asking her on a date. Another month later he was uploading loads of loved up pics of them both, moving in with her, introducing her to family, declaring his love for her. She's told me this and I have her on social media so can see the posts. They've been together 5 months and their relationship is like that of people who have been together years.
Everyone is saying what a cute couple they are and being very positive.
I just feel awful because, I'm sorry but to me it's quite clear her only purpose to him is to make his ex jealous and hurt her. He is angry at his ex and doesn't want her to see him single. I think he wants to hurt his ex by showing her he's moved on. Every post of them he puts as public and I'm almost certain it's for his ex's benefit. I just don't believe you can be over a 5 year relationship in a month.
Now none of this matters in theory as she's a grown woman. But she is vulnerable and she is my friend. She's been single years and is clearly besotted with him. She has become very, very invested in him and after only 5 months of dating is living with him. They moved in together after 8 weeks of dating. I just hate sitting back and watching my friend being used to make another woman jealous and as a rebound and I feel awful as I introduced them.
He's also been trying to get my attention by messaging me. I refused to add him on Facebook so he likes all my public posts. I blocked him a few weeks ago.
I wouldn't be surprised if he was messaging other women too. I don't think j he's physically cheating on her but I'd be surprised if he wasn't flirting with other women.
I'm not going to say and do anything. She's a grown woman and will learn in her own time but I feel so guilty and awful. Then sometimes I think, maybe he does genuinely like her and they're going to last and be happy together.
She doesn't know him. Doesn't know what he's like in the way I do. She's blindly besotted and I feel I've instigated it but bringing her somewhere they would meet. She will be devastated if it ends and it would affect her mental health. But I don't KNOW she's a rebound and she's an adult.
AIBU if I do nothing?