To be at a loss

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Dh and I have been together for a very long time. 15 years, and we love each other very deeply.

I know I'm not BU, but I need some MN help in dealing with this

DH and I both love a drink. That's a given. But the problem is he doesn't know when to stop.

Any time we are out together at a family do, Christmas party, work night out, wedding, christening, whatever party you can think of, I dread because I don't know how dh may manage his alcohol intake.

Tonight we were out on a work do. He got really drunk really quickly and my only option was to keep a close eye on him.
The night was over for me. I couldn't take my eyes off him. I couldn't relax or enjoy a drink.. I had to be on call to make sure he was a safe and b didn't make a dick of himself in front of the boss.

I'm so bored of this. I'm so fed up up of having to baby sit him on nights out and worry about his safety. He's almost 40 ffs. How can I get round this?

This isn't a one off. It's a regular occurrence. His family know about this and laugh it off. It's not funny. It impacts my enjoyment and seriously hinders fun family outings.

Any help or experience of this would be helpful

Talk to him. Give him examples of his behaviour when drinking to excess.

He needs to see his doctor. Drinking to excess is a form of alcoholism.

if he can't control his drinking then he should stop.

Its a possibility that he is drinking because he knows you are there to keep an eye on him, so stop

Can you film him being a dick and play it back to him ? You need a very honest chat with him , has it never been mentioned before ?

You definitely need to speak to him, in a calm manner, and tell him how it makes you feel. Don't let it escalate in to a huge argument and try not to sound accusatory but definitely try to get the point across how unfair it is and ask him to just regulate his drinking at the next do so you can enjoy yourself.

Thanks everyone.
We had a real honest conversation today. He had an awful day, anxiety through the roof. He is knocking booze on the head for a while. He is very conscious of this problem and genuinely did try to pace himself. But once he went over that line that was it, like a switch...
Thanks for your support