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To think I can vote for who I fucking well like, and my DM has no right to try and tell me otherwise?

76 replies

Runny · 03/06/2017 20:22

So today I announced my intention to vote Labour and to cut a very long story short DM has gone apeshit with me. Apparently us 'youngsters' have never lived under a proper Labour government, because Tony Blair wasn't a proper Labour PM so doesn't count, but Jeremy Corbyn is a 'communist' and if he gets in next week 'I'll never know hardship like it because I wasn't around in the 70's when there was no electricity and everyone was on strike and there was rubbish and dead bodies piled up in the street'.

That was the basic jist of her rant, it really did sound like that and she is genuniely both offended and horrified that I would dare to support Labour. Ive thought long and hard about who to vote for, and the Labour Party have always been the party I've best identified with. So it's a no brainer really.

I should say she has issues around control, and has always had a problem with me expressing an opinion, unless it's the same as her own so I shouldn't be surprised really. I've sat on the fence for years but wasn't expecting this, I have to say I'm feeling secretly quite pleased with myself for being honestl

I haven't dared tell her that DB is voting Labour as well. She'll probably combust. The best thing is last week she had a rant when my DF told her that the very first time he voted his parents joked they'd chuck him out unless he voted Labour, he didn't and they didn't chuck him out but she went mad saying parents nad no right to tell their kids who to vote for!

She's out of order. Isn't she?

OP posts:
LiveLongAndProspero · 03/06/2017 20:23

You were U to announce your intention on voting at all.

Sparklingbrook · 03/06/2017 20:24

Why announce it? Confused

TowerRavenSeven · 03/06/2017 20:25

Don't discuss politics. My inlaws have been married 40 years and they don't know who the other one votes for. They don't discuss it.

Mumchance · 03/06/2017 20:27

In your position, I would subscribe to Marxism Today, and start selling copies of the Socialist Worker on a prominent local street corner. Grin

Runny · 03/06/2017 20:28

I just said I think I'm voting Labour, didn't announce it. I don't spout off and spam Facebook with political stuff.

OP posts:
Sparklingbrook · 03/06/2017 20:30

You said in the first line of your OP that you announced it.

AirBiscuitEater · 03/06/2017 20:31

My lovely DM has told me if I dare vote Tory she will have no choice but to disown me. I haven't made my intentions known either way, she's just "warning me" Hmm

InfiniteSheldon · 03/06/2017 20:33

She's got a point. If you didn't want her reaction why did you ' announce' it. Do you enjoy pressing her buttons?

metspengler · 03/06/2017 20:33

Don't rub your politics in the noses of your family and friends, and don't pry into theirs.

The same goes for religion.

Just one of life's lessons really, you both had to BU for this conversation to happen.

user1471545174 · 03/06/2017 20:34

She's correct in her recollection of the '70s so INBU, but wrong to try to influence your vote, in the same way MN is wrong to try to influence votes by calling anyone a cunt who doesn't vote Labour (pretty sure this method is fairly ineffective, though).

So YANBU, overall. Your vote is your own thing.

LiveLongAndProspero · 03/06/2017 20:34

So today I announced my intention to vote Labour

I just said I think I'm voting Labour, didn't announce it

Mum2jenny · 03/06/2017 20:35

Religion and politics are subjects best avoided unless you really know your friends and relations, and even then I'd be cautious discussing them.

Runny · 03/06/2017 20:37

Well to be honest, she's trampled all over my feelings and opinions all my life so maybe I do enjoy my new found confidence a little bit more than I should. But all I said was, 'I think I'm going to vote Labour'. I wasn't expecting a reaction like that.

OP posts:
Mum2jenny · 03/06/2017 20:38

Vote for who you want but I'd not discuss my decision unless I felt it necessary.

hackmum · 03/06/2017 20:43

Ask her if she's looking forward to paying the dementia tax, as it can only be a matter of time.

ForalltheSaints · 03/06/2017 20:45

It is a secret ballot. You can vote for any of the candidates.

The rant was unreasonable, though I agree with the view that the last Labour government ended in 1979.

SuperBeagle · 03/06/2017 20:45

You said you announced it Confused

So you brought it on yourself.

StillDrivingMeBonkers · 03/06/2017 20:45

She's right of course but that isn't the issue here .

shinyredbus · 03/06/2017 20:47

errrrrr... why would you announce it? Politics is a touchy subject!

But - YANBU - you are allowed to vote for whomever you like.

derxa · 03/06/2017 20:47

Yawn

JennyHolzersGhost · 03/06/2017 20:47

How old are you OP? Is this your first election as a voter ?

AperolOnIce · 03/06/2017 20:48

What Bonkers said. Some of us remember those days. It wasn't fun and I wouldn't want to go there again.

EdithWeston · 03/06/2017 20:50

Marxism Today went bust in the early 90s.

Listening to those who remember the 1970s from their own direct experience is however worth it. JC appears much closer to that era than to Blair and the immediately following successors.

Thiscantreallybehappening · 03/06/2017 20:52

It is entirely up to you how you vote and no one should tell you how to vote but your DM is right about absolutely right about Labour. There is a reason the Communist Party are supporting them.

GraceGrape · 03/06/2017 20:52

Why shouldn't OP tell her family who she's voting for? Perfectly normal in my circle. My friends and family all discuss who we are voting for. We don't all agree, but respect one another's right to choose. Politics is part of life.