To think the clue is in the name: it's a birth*day* not a bloody birthday week?

[pasturesgreen]

This is lighthearted, as I know it's nothing to do with me and everyone is entitled to the birthday celebrations they prefer and I should basically just ignore and each to their own etc., but...

My facebook and instagram feeds are currently almost taken over by dozens of posts from my cousin, who's celebrating her DP's "birthday week". They've had drinks, they've had an "activity", they went to the theatre, they went for a meal out, they had a photo session where a cringe-worthy poster-sized photo collage of the birthday boy was produced and they have more things planned for today and tomorrow.

Cousin's DP's actual birthday was yesterday. Cousin is in her 40s, her DP mid-50, so not exactly teenagers anymore. I'm all for making a fuss of people on their birthday, but AIBU and an old grump to think that it's your actual birth bloody day, not week?

Rant over.

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At all! Get a grip - them.

I have a friend who celebrates her birthday MONTH.

She buys herself a gift every day throughout September and thoroughly enjoys it. It could be a simple bar of chocolate to a new lipstick, to a holiday!!

I haven't celebrated my birthday for years. I hit the big 4-0 this year and intend on making up for lost time by following her example! 🎉🎉🎉🎉

I always end up having a birthday week but I'm not on fb

I have a birthday week, dh does a little something each day little things like DS & DD holding a flower when I get in, favourite dinner, champagne, A theatre show.

I bloody love it and very much look forward to it each year 😍

Fucking hell, a birthday MONTH??

Nah I'm with them. There's so little pleasure in the world these days. If it's not a negative chore and they're having fun then crack on I say

DP gave me a birthday month for my first birthday that we were together. Doesn't do that anymore in spite of my many hints.

Well sounds like a massive amount of hassle but whatever floats their boat I suppose!

As long as there not asking others to buy gifts everyday for the week then crack on.

#justsayin

I know someone who celebrated her birthday month. It wasn't even a significant birthday.
It made me think a tiny bit less of her tbh.

I have a friend who celebrates her birthday MONTH

surely no one could be that self absorbed.

YA sooooo NBU

I take cakes to work on my birthday, and DW gets me a card - that's it, and suits me.

If DC makes a card as well, so much the better.

I wish you could post the photo shoot collage...

I had a birthday from the end of May until the end of the October/Nov half term last year

It was entirely holiday themed.

It was my 50th!

I think it's just an opportunity to takes lots of pictures and document their 'amazing' life on Instagram.

Maybe I'm being cynical, but I doubt they'd bother with a birthday week if social media didn't exist. Same with all these week long hen parties you get nowadays.

Well, I had a birthday week for my 18th and that was waaaaay before the invention of social media.
But it was just an excuse to get together with lots of mates in different groups... went out on night with some school friends, the next night with some college friends, one night with just me and boyfriend, one night with our big group of friends that we went clubbing with, one night we got a takeaway... it can easily mount up, especially if your birthday is midweek so you can stretch it into two weekends, one before and one after!

TBH I do the same now, and especially this year as it is a big zero year. But really it's more an excuse to get people together, who you might otherwise not see because everyone's busy. Folks are more inclined to rearrange any other plans - weekly exercise classes or the like - for an 'occasion' like a birthday or Christmas.

Its not just birthdays where there has been an attempt to stretch a day into more. Cue Valentines weekend, Mothers Day weekend, for example.

Birthday month eh?
Fuck it, I'm having a Birthday Year

Is it a special birthday?

I decided to take a leaf out the queens book, so I have my actual birthday, which is in the summer holidays so is spent just me and the DC and we go out for the day, then I have my other birthday that weekend with DH and friends.

They need to get a grip.

I don't get all this 'oh there's so much misery in the world so why can't we have a week where it's all about ME'.

I go for lunch because I want to go for lunch.
If I want to do an activity at the weekend, I do it.

If there's too much misery in life then make life better all year round, don't use your birthday as some excuse to act like a spoiled princess with zillions of things.

I did that for my 40th, went out for a meal in the day with friends, and a bigger get together at the weekend. Only because it was my 40th, any other day, I wouldn't have celebrated so much. My dh has a birthday moth, he does not celebrate, but wants to be left alone in peace by the kids, I don't think so!

Are they are celebrating with different people, ie drinks after work, friends, family etc. Having said that there is NO EXCUSE for a poster montage ever.

True kc

I get people doing something with family, something with friends.

What I don't get is people expecting their other half to spoil them for a whole week and then pretend it's because 'life is too miserable'.