AIBU to not be happy with this comment?

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I was having a conversation with my niece and out of nowhere she said I don't study as much as xxxxx (my ds name) but I'm still really good at everything. Considering her age and considering they don't know how long my ds spends studying, I can only assume that my sister talks about my ds and how he is only good because he studies a lot (she assumes anyway).

My sister's jealousy towards my ds is nothing new, she always makes comments on my ds school and how hers is much better, she makes little comments on the "sort" of kids that go to our school compared to her school, how her school results are better than ours, how their ofsted is better than ours etc.... she makes comments about anything to belittle me and my ds to be honest!

AIBU to not be happy with this comment and to assume it's my sister fault as my niece wouldn't have a clue about how "much" my ds studies? (Please note, I'm not mad at my niece, I am mad at my sister!)
Surely how much my ds studies is nothing to do with my sister and she should be happy that my ds does really well at school?

I'm getting really fed up with my sister's attitude, comments and jealousy!

Rise above , rise above.

Easy to say, harder to do, I know.

Sister is being ridiculous, and judgy. Why would you choose to engage with that?

DancingLedge I have been thinking about cutting ties with her for a while, don't know how much longer I can put up with this!

Your sister needs to grow up! She is probably jealous of your ds, because her children are not as good him. As for your ds studying a lot, good on him, sounds like your niece is jealous too.
Your sister should be happy for you and your ds, surely?
Do you really want someone like this in your life?

What do you reply when you niece/sister says things like this?

In my friendship group we have sisters with the same issue. Last week we were having lunch and sister A said, words to the effect, that her DS would probably get the same grades at ALevel this summer because although he doesn't work as hard as sister B's son, he is cleverer and at a better school. Sister B just looked up and said "maybe, but what I am proudest of is my DS's work ethic". It floored her sister and we were all pleased she had finally responded. Mind you sister A had already commented that she'd looked at another friends house on Rightmove and was surprised how dingy the bedrooms were!

My response would be "Hard work beats talent when talent fails to work hard." Hard work will always be a good skill to have. Thinking that everything comes on a plate will lead to a struggle later in life.

I would have taken that to mean your sister was saying things like 'Your cousin studies very hard' in order to encourage her daughter to do the same.

rollonthesummer I don't usually say anything. To be quite honest I was really shocked at my niece's comment.

Thanks for all the replies and suggestions