To not want to go - as I'm an afterthought

[newnameoldme]

A friend has just text to ask if I want to join her and our mutual friend this eve.. and that she had forgotten that our mf was coming on an overnight visit. She booked a train only Thursday.
I was immediately surprised that our mf is here as she hasn't called or text at any point to let me know.
The mutual friend lives a few hours away and its the first time she's come over since I've lived here (8 months)
I would have been delighted to see her.. but I just feel it's very odd she didn't mention a word to me. Even at last minute she's had a 2hr train journey.
So it feels like my friend who lives close by has pointed out to mf they should call me.
But its a Saturday maybe they were hoping in busy.. And there was obviously no prior intention to include me!

Am i being hyper sensitive?
Would i be ridiculous not to go see them now I've been invited?
I hate feeling like the unpopular girl at school when I'm in my 40s.. am i being daft AIBU?

Yeah, go if you're not busy.

It's very last minute, and they've probably only just decided what they're doing.

Don't cut off your nose to spite your face on this one :-)

Unless there's a long backstory here I think you're being oversensitive. Go for drinks, catch up with your friends, have a nice night.

Might have been a mis communication, maybe Each of them thought the other would get in touch with you. They obviously want you to come out or they wouldn't have asked. I'd go.

I'd go.
I arranged to meet a friend a while ago.
There's usually 3 of us.
Both of us thought the other one had invited her.
When we realised it was a very last minute invite but we hadn't forgotten about her.
She saw the funny side.

If this visit was only booked on Thursday, then they mightn´t have gotten to organizing the night out until now. I think you are looking for something that isn´t there. Go out and see your friends.

I think you are overthinking this. Unless they have 'form' I'd have assumed it was just last minute planning. If you want to go then go.

Thank you! I dont want to sit at home feeling offended And i do want to see them.

I'd feel like you - but I'd go anyway.
The good thing about getting older is that I tend to be less worked up about these things, so go and have a nice time.

Me and my oldest/closest friends who live far away are hopeless at forward planning, most things are a bit ad hoc. I'd go and not take offence.

Unless there's a more of a backstory I really think you are over reacting.

Go and have fun with your friends.

Just go. Even if you were an after though, which might not even be the case!, go and enjoy yourself with your friends.

People are busy. I doubt if you're an after thought. More they didn't get round to talking to you... too busy planning the visit and going about their daily lives.

I expect your local friend was waiting for your mf to confirm times and plans etc before contacting you. Perhaps she's only just had confirmation today on whether mf is free to come out tonight (is she staying with family?) and felt there was no point getting in touch before she knew what was happening. It could have taken mf a couple of days to work out the 'schedule' of her visit. I expect she also just left it with local friend to contact you and ask.

It's possible that MF thought local friend was going to call you and set it up, and local friend forgot to do that, then when MF turned up and said "So did you call Newname*?" the local friend would have smacked her forehead and gone "No, I meant to but it kept slipping my mind, shit, we'd better text her now"

So I think I'd go. But I'd also be on the watch for any kind of weird behaviour or vibe.

I'm very sensitive to feeling left out but have learned in situations like this to just think the best of friends and go for it. You'll feel worse if you don't go on principle, and the chances are you'll get there and have a great time. Don't torment yourself, have a lovely evening with your friends x