DH and I are pretty close friends with another couple.
Last Monday the DH called and asked DH if we could lend him £50 as he couldn't afford to put petrol in his car to get to work - this isn't the first time we've lent them money but on this occasion we didn't have any spare cash (DH doesn't get paid until the last day of the month, plus he takes ages to pay it back) so had to turn him down which then caused a bit of a row.
He basically questioned our spending - our DDs have been sprouting out all over the place and were desperate for some new clothes so we had a bit of a spree last weekend, and we've just booked and paid for our first holiday abroad for years - so he was a bit "well, I can't afford to take my children on holiday" "I can't afford to buy my daughter expensive new clothes", "I'm going to have to cycle to work all week now" (I used to work for the same company and cycled every day, it's 10 minutes along a quiet cycle path)
We haven't talked about any of this to them ourselves, but our DDs are really good mates and they'd been messaging each other/posting crap on snapchat so I'm assuming my DD has mentioned it to their DD
DH runs his own business and next week he's got a massive job coming in which will mean all hands on deck - I'll be there for a few hours each evening as well, so DH apologised we couldn't lend him money right now, but offered friend a couple of days work if he wanted it (friend has asked for work in the past). Friend went mad - accused DH of being patronising, offering him "crumbs" and taking the piss, said we had plenty of money and just wanted friend to beg, before putting the phone down.
I was made redundant a few months ago, I got a fairly decent payout and was lucky enough to get another job straight away. We've used some of the money to pay for our holiday, pay off some debts and have put the rest away. I worked for the same company friend works for so he knows I was made redundant and has some idea of how much my payout was so he seems to think we're being totally unreasonable in not lending him money as I have my redundancy money - I can't get to it easily anyway (I'd have to go into the bank, etc)
Anyway, what really gave me the rage is the PA meme posted on Facebook about knowing who your real friends are in times of need, and then last night DH was flicking through FB and friend been tagged in loads of photos out on the piss for "Dave's" stag weekend.