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Hen do - how to keep details a surprise from the bride

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ComingUpTrumps · 02/06/2017 21:44

Hi everyone.

Sorry - yet another hen weekend one(!!!!)

I'm organising a hen weekend for a very close relative. So far, all the relative knows is the location of the hen weekend, and what she should pack for the weekend - all of the guests and I would like to keep the rest of the weekend a surprise for her.

As part of the weekend, I've planned a meal out at a restaurant, where everyone will be ordering from the same set menu. I've also just been asked by the restaurant to let them know in advance what everyone's choices from the set menu will be.

How can I keep this meal a surprise from the bride? Would it be possible?

Any advice would be welcome :)

Thank you!

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MinnowAndTheBear · 02/06/2017 21:47

Surely she knows you'll be going out for a meal? If you don't want her to see the actual menu and give away the name of the restaurant then just write the choices down yourself.

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ComingUpTrumps · 02/06/2017 21:49

Minnow she doesn't know. All she knows is the town where the hen weekend will be.

Of course I want to let her choose her own meal, but then that would spoil the surprise a bit for her, wouldn't it?

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ComingUpTrumps · 02/06/2017 21:50

Oh sorry I see what you mean about writing down the choices - sorry! Thanks - good idea :)

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ComingUpTrumps · 02/06/2017 21:56

Anyone else with any ideas please? :)

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peachgreen · 02/06/2017 21:57

Ask her fiancé what she'd have - my DH would know what I'd order off a set menu. Then you order the opposite so she can swap if she wants to!

BoyFromTheBigBadCity · 02/06/2017 22:36

OP, I mean this in the nicest way so sorry if it doesn't come across that way, but seriously, chill out. Asking the bride to choose a meal option is fine. It will not ruin her weekend. I think you're a fab friend but you must detach - this weekend isn't everything.

BoyFromTheBigBadCity · 02/06/2017 22:38

Also eat what YOU want - you're not the one getting married, have your own first choice!

weeblueberry · 02/06/2017 22:38

Agree with asking her DF. By the time you are ready to get married the bloke is surely going to know what you'd order from a menu? ☺️

Iamastonished · 02/06/2017 22:40

"Of course I want to let her choose her own meal, but then that would spoil the surprise a bit for her, wouldn't it?"

She knows she will be eating at some point, so all she needs are the food choices. She doesn't need to know the venue.

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ComingUpTrumps · 02/06/2017 23:01

Thank you so much everyone Smile I'm definitely overthinking this! I've now emailed the bride with the meal choices. Thanks again :)

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