I think IABU

[GirlOnATrainToShite]

My childhood friend died 4 weeks ago.

She was ill for a long time with cancer.

Her and her husband were Scout leaders and he has his own FB but keeps updating her status with Scout info which I am finding really

I hate FB sometimes.

I would find this upsetting too. But obviously not something you can say to him . Maybe step away from FB for a while.

I understand why it may make you feel uncomfortable but it's probably his way of dealing with things right now.

YABU There will be a reason for it whether it's habit, or simply that not everyone is on his page yet and need to see the info.

Sorry for the loss of your friend

You're not being unreasonable to be upset. To be angry at him given when he's going through would be unreasonable - it will be his way to coping to focus on day to day stuff like scouts. However to have your own reaction is not unreasonable.

It may be his way to try to connect to her, keep her in peoples minds or keeping what she used to do going. It's his way of coping. So sad.

Maybe it helps him, maybe in his grief it helps him connect with her. It's a sad situation and if it helps him survive it then I'm not going to judge

YA probably being a bit unreasonable but I get it. I had a friend who died and her FB was used by everyone to post messages to her for birthday, Christmas etc. I kind of think "whatever helps you get through" but it did freak me out to see her pop up in my feed after she had been dead for years.

I believe it's his way of coping. Please don't upset yourself.

Just hide the feed. You cannot account for how somebody else is grieving, so while it may be upsetting you, it could be a comfort to him.

I know where you're coming from and it is difficult. A close friend died a few years ago and her parents have left her Facebook page as it was. Partly I suspect because they aren't technically-minded and don't know how to change it but also as a way of dealing with their grief. It used to upset me when I saw it pop up in my feed now and again but now it feels like 'seeing' her again somehow and remembering her, and other mutual friends have said the same thing.