AIBU to not fully understand what sort of behaviour is assertive and what is bossy?
By bossy I mean constantly commenting in a negative or overly critical way about how other people do things making it seem nothing is ever good enough. People who have an angry vibe if you don't things exactly the way they expect (e.g. mixing squash too weak, too sweet).
Or ordering others about rather than asking politely. People for whom nothing you or others do is ever really good enough.
To me bossiness is an unpleasant and ever so slightly threatening 'tone'.
Alternatively, do you know assertive people who don't come across as bossy? Are you one of these people? How do you do it?
I currently volunteer at a charity and the line manager in the store is so incredibly demanding making me feel like nothing I do is ever enough. I personally think I am doing alright and am getting increasingly fed up as I am giving my time freely and happily and getting negative vibes in return.